Shemike,
I would not be worried, just be happy she accepts you en femme. Perhaps she only wants to be friends.
My wife was accepting of me and did not matter how I was dressed. She did not push me away if I was dressed, but she preferred intimate contact with me in male mode rather than girl mode which was also my preference as well. Sometimes we had some interesting times together where it did not matter.
You could try kissing her in male mode and see what happens. If she pulls away, then perhaps friendship is as far as it will go. Actually I would not push the issue. Just be yourself, if there is something there it will grow into more than friendship. I am trying to be optimistic here. Do not feel bad if nothing becomes of this, just be happy you have someone to share part of your life with.