So I have this ad out looking for other Crossdressers to hang out with. Its quite specific that I am not looking for a hook up or a relationship. Yet, it seems that other CDer's that respond are looking for just that.
One just wrote me and asked if I would like to be with him while I was dressed and he wasn't.
Now I suppose I could share my crossdressing with others getting pedicures and haircuts together, etc, but all that other stuff, is well, just no. Anyone else feel the same way?
Finding the other side of me.
Perhaps join a TG Org. Those folks mostly want to socialize with other TG folks, not hook up.
Second star to the right and straight on till morning
where did you place the ad? craigslist...or a dating site? yea most people dont bother to actually " READ" them..LOL...I tried to put an ad out to find local cd gals..just friend stuff...i got the EXACT same thing.
Ever wonder if discrimination comes from other CDers as well as non CDs? What I mean is that we are somewhat timid to put ourselves outthere for just this reason.
Victoria
By the grace of God, I am what I am.
I have the same hope (or is it just a day dream), of having a 'chess night' or 'football night' one or more other Xdressers, maybe one day going to a restaurant? But i haven't found the forum where i might contact locals. I am really just after someone to dress for. I'd be interested to know if anyone has found success in social dressing. It is a little tricky, because for me XDing is a turn on, and so inherently sexual, so boundaries and self-consciousness would be an issue.
I'd advise joining an organized group if you want to meet and socialize with other TG people. The personal ads invite people with other motives.
Remember always that you not only have the right to be an individual, you have an obligation to be one.
Eleanor Roosevelt
I'm afraid it's a rather sordid reflection of one aspect of human nature... Kim has it right: Personal Ads are all about 'Personal Services' to a lot of folk...
Do you think there's another aspect to this..? I think there might be one which stretches the exploitation of women as sex objects - obviously we're all less than real women - in these folks eyes - and therefore that makes it even more acceptable to exploit us TG/TS folk for sexual purposes... All very demeaning really...
A support group has to be the way - and yes I feel the same way you do: would just love the right opportunity for a bit of socialising, conversation, trading tips and having fun AND doing that in a safe environment... Ah, one day... maybe...
Katey x
"Put some lipstick on - Perfume your neck and slip your high heels on
Rinse and curl your hair - Loosen your hips, and get a dress to wear" Stefani Germanotta
I have joined Tri-Ess New England, but have not gone to any meetings yet.Originally Posted by Kate Simmons
Perhaps join a TG Org. Those folks mostly want to socialize with other TG folks, not hook up.
Yes, it has been on CL.
Finding the other side of me.
Sadly, a similar thing happened to me. I recently was chatting for awhile with a CD on another site. She had this whole scenario about having her "special" friend over for "good times" in her "specially" CD made up home. She is bi and knew I was straight. I wouldn't mind meeting up with her but she lives a 2 hours drive away! And, I wasn't going to do that for someone I knew nothing about. When I told her that, she was offended! I never heard from her again. I hated hurting her feelings. But, her fantasy relationship scared me!
Fortunately, a little over a year ago a nearby dresser started an online group for CD/TSs to get together and meet at various venues around SoCal. I haven't seen anyone hooking up. Just having good times out eating, drinking, dancing, and socializing!
Too bad there aren't folks like her all around to start similar social events for dressers everywhere!
U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
i'm a member of a chat room on another site and i get lots of people who think I am looking for a hook up, I have a wonderful gg partner who understands, and supports me.
We are, who we are no one can change that. Be strong and be who you feel you are inside.
I use to feel that way as well, it was kinda sexual but really I began to understand that was not what I wanted, hanging out, shopping and the like is really more enjoyable for me and a relationship is not in the picture. Its more fun to just be one of the girls so to speak
I am a member of a site called fetlife.
I've found lots of local cd's and accepting women to talk to on that site. People are usually pretty respectful and if you put in your profile that you are not looking to hook up, people leave you alone. Just be sure that if you join and are going to message a woman, be clear that you are not looking to hook up. I've found that reassuring them that you are looking for friends and not hook ups is a great way to get a response.
Hope this helps.
“You can love someone so much… But you can never love someone as much as you miss them.”
-John Green, An Abundance of Katherines
Look for an organized group.
There are others that would like to meet for coffee on this board.
You have to establish yourself first.
Work on your elegance,
and beauty will follow.
yea craigslist is ng....there are lots of girls from here in your area though...and they just had a big cd convention in jan in boston..i think this forum is one of the best places to meet people. There is another one in R.I in the fall too.
And there's Fantasia in P-Town in October?
Hi, I'm Steffi and I'm a crossdresser... And I accept and celebrate both sides of me. Or, maybe I'm gender fluid.
Join Sisters of Boston or the Tiffany Club and you will find people to be friends with..
It SURE is my hair ! I have the receipt and the box it came in !
try this... walk in to a bar and try to find somene who doesn't drink. Why not change your approach and advertise what activity you want to do and then leave the CDing part as secondary thing?
Chickie
Guess there will always be the predatory types out there. It's got to be difficult for them to believe that many of us are hetero and, for me at least, my crossdressing has nothing to do with men at all!
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