not a true crossdresser!

[femaletrouble]

let me begin by sayin ive cross dressed from a early age but when i say cross dress i mean i only realy do it to satisfy me sexualy (i dont have a partner) once ive completed my manly urges i undress back into my normal male clothes untill i want to have the same sexual thrill, i dont realy think of cross dressing much at the present time as i have a lot of worry over my elderly parents. so would i be realy classed as a cross dresser or more of a person who gets a buzz out of it? im blushin as i right this part, a small collection of items to heighten my pleasure once im dressed... so i sometimes wonder if i realy am a proper crossdresser?????

[Lexi_83]

Look up "fetish dressers" and see if that suits you.

[kimdl93]

Quite proper, really. Of course, you must feel the requisite measure of guilt upon satisfaction of your needs...or it doesn't count and you must do the whole thing over again until you get it right.

You Brits!

[DonnaT]

There are CDs who dress because of trans issues, minute or large, and there are CDs who dress as a fetish, but both are CDs.

[Marcelle]

Hi there,

When it comes to CDing I think you will find we are all over the map. I would say that you fit fine within the CD umbrella.

Hugs

Isha

[Katey888]

I think you'll find you're stuck with us here in the broad borders of CD land...

We don't want to get too much into labels as Isha will get mad, and you don't want to make Isha mad...

And yes, Fetish CD is a 'proper' category - so we can be all proper about it, but not necessarily guilty - I think Kim's confusing us Brits there with some religious sects...

So does that make you feel more comfortable with us...?

Katey x

[femaletrouble]

thanks yes ive was just wonderin if i was some kind of sub crossdresser ive bin through the guilt stages and two or three purges so i guess i am a kinky kind of cd er lol

[kimdl93]

Right oh, Katey...I really meant the Presbyterians!

[Caden Lane]

I don't wanna be proper about it...I prefer improper! Improper girls have more fun!

[Mafalda]

Do we really need to be classed as something? Probably yes, it's a common way of thinking, but... sometimes I feel somehow offensive to think that I can be classed the same as any other person! Be free! Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

[Allisa]

I can't speak for anyone else but when I first started to CD I too became aroused and would act on that feeling then quickly undress, but after a period of time it no longer was a sexual thing and I progressed to where I am today so there is no telling what might happen.


Bye-Bye Lisa

[mechamoose]

I'm of the opinion that you like what you like, and you shouldn't have to apologize for it.

The biggest sexual organ in the human body is the brain. It isn't unusual for people pretend during intimate times. Everyone does to some degree or another. Especially being single, you have to rely on yourself to scratch your particular itch. There is nothing to feel guilty about.

Are you 'different'? Yes. But so are all of us.

/hugs

- MM

[Helen Grandeis]

Even those people who claim not to be fetish dressers have a certain sexual component to their enjoyment even if they don't recognize it as such. This hypothesis can only be proven by one of those sophisticated brain activity scans. Even at 59 there is no diminishment of any of the flavors of enjoyment. However, most recently I have come to appreciate the sublime peace and subtle arousal of spending a 14 hour day immersed in Helen.

[Steph_CD_62]

In my eyes you are just one type of a crossdresser

In my opinion you have a transvestic fetishism

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transvestic_fetishism

[Jaylyn]

I think a lot of us started that way too very varied degrees. I feel almost caught in the middle I still get aroused by it by at the same time I enjoy the feel of women's clothing, undergarments, hose and heels and makeup. The older I get the more I'm enjoying the feel of the clothes.

[GretchenJ]

Hi - yes I think you can be considered for admission to the club nothing at all to be ashamed or embarrassed off. There are many flavors in this ice cream store we call life.

Just a nugget to chew on. That has been the extent of my cross dressing as you described, until very very recently , when all of a sudden I wanted to have more of an experience than just dressing at home. You may not reach this level, but you never know

And yes, don't annoy Isha..

If you want to discuss, feel free to send a pm

Welcome to the club
Gretchen

[Wildaboutheels]

True Crossdresser? Even some of the Forum Dinos who have been here forever don't agree on just what makes one a CDer much less a "true" one.

But the FACTS are undeniable and are clearly illustrated in hundreds of threads and thousands of pics. Very few here did not at least "pass through" that clothes "as a tool" phase. A tool to get to the promised land - Os. No different than men's magazines or porn as a tool. It's rare to see "it's never been sexual for me". And three times when I saw that posted, it did not jibe with their earlier posts. Three times I asked privately and respectfully. The results were predictable. 3/3. They preferred to put and keep their "past" behind them. In fact, that is an extremely common theme. As most here have gotten older... the Os have become less frequent or nonexistent, the dresses have become longer... and the heels shorter and the desire to pass and money/time/effort to present as a female has become far more important.

That's a natural reaction of our brains to protect us from ourselves. NGCs Brain Games clearly illustrates in every episode this very thing. Just what kind of gymnastics our brains are capable of.

And the drive to have Os? What could possibly be more addictive than that? Male Os are what keep humans on the planet. They better be addictive.

No Human, man or woman, can control what "turns them on". Evolution is simply not going to allow it. Accept that and your CDing life will become a lot easier .

Guilt and/or shame do not HAVE to be part of the equation.

[Zylia]

I like how 'true cross-dresser' sounds like it's something to aspire to I'd say wearing women's clothes as a guy for whatever (non-professional) reason puts you well into cross-dressing territory. Also, every post of Wildaboutheels about "Os" is always 100% correct, so take heed.

[PaulaQ]

I don't believe sexuality has anything to do with driving your CDing. I think it's a red herring.

Why do I say this? Because your behavior was very similar to mine, right up until 5 months before I started transition.

[DaniCD1986]

I feel the same way that femaletrouble. I don't know much about women's clothes, I don't even have a wig, I've never went to any place crossdressed and I've never had sex dressed as a girl either (but I wish though, just never had the chance ). The funny thing is that when I'm walking down the streets, I don't even look at boys, I don't like them unless they look a little bit femme or really muscular . So what the hell am I? I don't have a clue. But then I think. do I need to be labeled? Well, I guess that labels are useful to identify objects, not persons. Anyway, it's impossible not to ask yourself this kind of questions

[Teresa]

What your going through happened much earlier in my Cding, that part hasn't gone away but the old brain starts to play tricks, the clothes start to feel good so you want to dress longer, then you want more stuff for different looks and so it goes on, you may as well go with it, you're a lifelong member.

[Adriana Moretti]

Whats the matter??? You dont like us???? C'mon.....C'mon.....admit it to yourself...your a crossdresser....LOL. just playing with ya. and food for thought.... what is the difference between a crossdresser and a man who puts on womens clothes to get a "buzz" out of it as you say? ....

[Babbs]

There can be a sexual thrill or a personal fulfillment I believe. The idea of cd'ing may have started for me as a kind of fetish but now its much more than that...

[Krististeph]

Right oh, Katey...I really meant the Presbyterians!

Yes, Presbyter (Prester) John, patron saint of crossdressers. Historical account from the book of Sinbad. I love it!

Who doesn't have a few fetishes? I know I've got enough to spare... Even non-CDs have fetishes about women's clothing. The CD aspect simply (in my mind) means you are not opposed to experiencing what the females you are fantasizing about are feeling, from the inside out.

Remember- sex is in the mind- everything else is just nerve endings and endorphin receptors. (doesn't that sound romantic?)

Again with the labels, one has to be careful. One is not defined by being a crossdresser, crossdressing is simply one aspect of the larger definition of the individual. Technically speaking, this site should be "Crossdressing.com" rather than "Crossdressers.com", since our own title pidgeonholes us. I'm not saying this to push a political correctness agenda, but that this is something we should be continuously aware of and how it can mislead.

[DaniCD1986]

The CD aspect simply (in my mind) means you are not opposed to experiencing what the females you are fantasizing about are feeling, from the inside out.

Thank you, thank you and thank you
This is exactly the kinds of words that I was expecting to read in this forum, you just made me realize how do I feel about all this. I couldn't describe better the feeling of crossdressing. Now I know a little bit more about myself.