I think that your desire is in the right place, but the question isn't how you dress, its the role you fill.
You can be a rock solid provider while wearing frills.
"Role" in a relationship is a part you play. Who you are isn't that role, its what you do to support your nest. I do 100% of the cooking. Its just how that fell. That has nothing to do with what my bits are.
Be yourself.
/hugs
- MM