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    Silver Member noeleena's Avatar
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    Hi,

    Pity your not down under other side of world,

    id be able to to you to the sights we have, and dont matter how your dressed. i have many many friends and they get to meet my other friends here where we live in Waimate the south isl of NZ. i indroduse them when im talking to my friends,

    They know me so well its never an issue mind you i'v schooled them they know what to expect and they know a bit about my freinds so no drama's . and they'r cool .

    Pity you got done over when you said you dressed,
    well theres one detail about it you'll find who are real friends and you just go on iv told many 1000's of people here and acceptance is woderfull just the difference with people

    i'v had very few reject myself as a person in fact really its fantastic how people have recieved me, so dont give up dont loose sight of who you are, okay. yes it can be hard i know that only too well give your self time and those around you and see what transpires .

    Take care,

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    Your not alone sweetie, welcome on board.
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    Hi Zoey,

    You've already made a bit of a splash here but hopefully you've found a supportive place for you to come to when you need it.

    What's done is done, I'm afraid - now you just have to hunker down and deal with the consequences - but take your time, take it one day at a time, feel free to come back here for advice - most importantly - DON'T PANIC...

    Sounds like your parents will come round - they will also need time to understand and work it out.

    Those friends you had? Some may come back - they also will need to time to understand and process this...

    Why not take a deep breath - tell us a little more about yourself in the Intro section? Keep reading this forum - there is a LOT of info here that can help

    Do also please, please, read the Forum FAQs, rules and stickies in each section - they'll help you get around and provide useful guidelines for posting.

    And finally...

    KEEP CALM & CARRY ON!



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    Zoey I promise you will make alot of friends here. It is a great place to ask questions and just plain vent at times. Now that the cat is out of the bag there is no turning back. Just show your family and friends that you are proud of who you are, even if you never show them your girl side.
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    Hi Zoey,

    It is very hard indeed to loose friends to this thing we do. I have lost a very close friend when I came out to him. You might find that some will come around. Remember, the big reveal can come as a shock and sometimes the knee jerk reaction is denial and anger. Give it some time.

    In the meantime, is there a TG community you can reach out to in your area or a local LGBT venue where you can go. You may have lost some old friends but you might make some new ones. However, we are all here for you sweetie so you can lean on us for awhile until you get your balance again.

    Hugs

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    Sometime the right thing happens, but way in which it happens may not be the best. However, that doesn't mean that the right thing should not have happened.

    Wherever things sit for us, LGBT or crossdresser, we all carry the burden (in varying degrees) of deciding who you come out to and why. And sometimes, BLAM, it just comes out. It might not be the ideal way and it might draw more in the way of consequences, but at least the air is clear. You can't unring a bell. The only choice at this point is to go forward.

    Certainly it can feel VERY tough, but it is survivable, as we here can attest.

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    Zoey, Every life is filled with many decisions. Some we make are wonderful, while others can cause heartache. It is difficult to predict how family and friends will react when we decide to "come out", but it is the choice we make! You as an individual must always be comfortable and confident in who you are in YOUR life. Consider this not the end, but a new beginning for you! Many here are just a "click" away. Enjoy.

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    Thanks Adriana for your site.

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    Hey Zoey, You have a lot of friends here. Relax and enjoy the ride. Those who harass and leave were not FRIENDS !! Just do not go about rubbing it into peoples faces. Find those that will accept you for YOU !!

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    Zoey,
    I am sorry to hear of your recent unhappy events, and isolation. Our lifestyle can be unpredictable how others react. It is not the end of the world.

    I have a few close friends going back some 30 or more years. Would I ever tell them my secret ? no. They are like brothers to me. There are two that I have come out to, but they were not guy friends. One was my sister and the other my ex-sister-in-law, as well as my wife (happed very early in the relationship and long before marriage, also no relation to ex-sister-in-law.) Response from others (which may be most) can be unpredictable. There are those who would not care and others would simply ignore you as if you do not exist. It is hard to say to someone that if the person rejects you for coming out, it does not mean they are not true friends. You have to see it in a different light, similar to a spouse who discovers you or if you let the cat out of the bag, it can be a shock, an in most cases they feel you have lied to them and the friendship was not sincere because of your deception. As for male friends, expect it. Men fear labeling simply by association and they fear someone else would confuse them as something they are not simply because you walk a different path.

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    hello zoey we are allways ready to a friend any time and we understand how it is to have a softer side of life ,welcome to a great group

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    We are all friends on here, sorry to hear things turned out that way. Keep your head up Hun.
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    *Hug*

    I'm sorry it went this way. It's hard to feel your all alone in this world! Your not alone! You will find friendship and support here. There are lots here dealing with the same things. Hopefully their stories will help you deal with your situation. I bet their are meet up/support groups out there in Illinois. Maybe you could find one? It would help to meet others who deal with the same types of issues.

    If you ever need an ear, please feel free to PM me.

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    Zoey,
    Come and sit on my lap for a second....

    I know how you feel, alone and unwanted, carrying a terrible stigma, dressing in womens clothes.... What next....

    Everyone here on the board will sympathise with you and give you guidance and support, we will give you a little lift and a smile.

    When you get to know us you may find a friend amongst us.

    Friends are something you earn and not necessarily friending on Facebook or some other social media is really the same.

    It is hard when you feel all alone in the world and think that no one loves you... I can assure you there is someone out there for you and one day you will find that friend.
    In the meantime, take a deep breath, wipe those tears and give us all a big smile.

    By the way do you know who my best friend is?


























    It is my wife, and it always will be.
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    Hi Zoey, They probably weren't real friend's anyway.
    Having my ears triple pierced is AWESOME, ~~......

    I can explain it to you, But I can't comprehend it for you !

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    Hi Zoey. If your "friends" do not accept you for who you are... Then they are NOT true friends!
    A true friend accepts "YOU". There are a lot of true friends here. I am sure you will get to know a few of them!

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    Sorry to hear about your situation. People can be mean.
    You can always count me as a friend.

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    We are all here for you sweetie. I've read most of the threads and there is a wealth of good advice. You be you and walk through life like you own it!

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    One's social circle can change after coming out.
    So at this point you came out, the damage is done. Now time to start building a new circle of friends. It will not happen overnight. It could take months or even years to establish a new social circle. It does not even have to be GLBT either.
    The more confidence you gain in who you are, the easier it will become. For the Tg who live this ful time, the femme side is all our acquaintances and some friends even know.

    One thing that helps also is if new people know your CD status right away. Introduce yourself by your female name and do not tell the man name.
    It takes a true Erin to be a pain in the assatar.

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    Zoey - you have been strong and taken risks. Your parents are talking to you again. From here on, if you STAY strong, the only ways is up!

    Friends - you will make new ones - and better than the trash that serted you. Besides, there's always us lot on here.... we ARE your friends too.
    If you always do what you always did, you'll always get what you always got!

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