So I finally got a call back from HR regarding my coming out at work. The woman I spoke to told me the next step was to talk to my general manager and have him contact his regional HR representative. Since I was getting antsy about waiting for the call back, I asked my manger yesterday to meet me at a local cafe on Wednesday. He has to be at work in the morning but he told me he will call me when he is ready to leave and then we will meet. At work I wear a uniform and this will be a strictly social environment. So I need a little advice. When I go to meet him, how should I present myself? I'm at a point where I always need to wear a bra and the girls seem rather noticeable (at least to me). Besides that, I only have a few articles of menswear left, mostly sweats and old unisex t-shirts I got from running 5-ks. I'm afraid to go as my self because it may be too much of a shock. At the same time, I don't think I can really hide myself anymore (hence the coming out at work).
Then of course is the actual conversation. I'm not sure how to start. I suppose I should tell him about my impending name change first. (I expect the judge's decree by mid-May.) Is there anything I should do or say to prove to him I'm serious? I was thinking of bringing a copy of my therapist's letter consenting to HRT. The HR person said that after I talk to him, he will contact corporate to find out how to inform the rest of the staff and implement whatever procedures they have for a person transitioning on the job. Any specific topics I should bring up (i.e. restroom usage etc.)?
Thanks for your help.