So I have started my process of transitioning and been on my own for a few months now. And things between me and my ex are still a little strained at times and hopefully our relationship will improve since we have to whorl together parenting our children. At the current moment, I only get to see them a couple times a week, until I am able to request more time in the next mediation. When I do see them at the ex's house I have been going drab and she expects me to present myself as a guy if I want to see them. On a few occasions my ex has complained about how my hair is dyed, my fingernail have clear nail polish and look better then hers, my eyebrows are trimmed, or how I'm wearing eye makeup (still left on after I thought I cleaned it off). There have been a couple times when I was underdressed or had on women's pants and she complained and got mad. I'm still stuck having to live to lives when I'm with my children. But I do plan on starting HRT by July and at some point I'm going to have at something to my children as I go more full time, but I plan on taking it slow in introducing Billie to them. Especially since my son is 5 and my daughter is 2. I plan on talking with my therapist, but I thought I might ask for some advice from those who have kids.
How did you approach the subject? When did you bring it up and how? Did you do it with the other parent? And what was the outcome and did it affect the relationship with your children (age may make a difference for this question)?