It's time to get my ducks in a row and use the same system my ex is trying use against me. She also knows the system since she is a licensed social worker. I have talked to a couple lawyers so it's a matter of going with one. Especially with issues at my job, my marriage, now the issue with the brother and police. When it rains it pours and I often think what it would be like if I Just kept my true self hidden even if my life was miserable and I was unhappy. But then I realize that it's society's way of trying to stop me and put me in he place they think I need to be. This road has not been easy, but I still try to remain positive. Thank you got all the great advice. I'm also considering calling the transgender law center again. I had called before, but where not able to help. Maybe with everything else that's going on they will help.