Cheryl,Originally Posted by Cheryl T
You hit it on the nose. I love to hear my heels clicking on the floor (used to really be a turn-on before I started crossdressing) and feeling my dress blowing in a breeze.
Cheryl,
You hit it on the nose. I love to hear my heels clicking on the floor (used to really be a turn-on before I started crossdressing) and feeling my dress blowing in a breeze.
Gracias!
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Having the trappings of being a woman is one facet of being a woman, and I certainly enjoy it,
but to me it if not the whole thing, and for me, it is important to recognize and validate this. My
womanhood comes at the end of a struggle that started 35 years ago. Even when I am in my
male mode, I feel inside that I am a woman. I did not always used to feel that way, and I am
very glad I do now.
Amy M. Jackson
The trappings go with the rest.
One is no good without the other.
Work on your elegance,
and beauty will follow.
This.
I've attended a few CD gatherings where people have given me crap for not wearing a dress and mega heels, occasionally suggesting that I'm a "bad crossdresser"... Umm, okay. Look, I love a good dress, and given the right occasion I am more than willing to destroy my feet for fashion (although my new Cole Haan's are making that less of an issue). Sometimes though, I'm busy, tired, my feet were hurting already, and I was too lazy to shave above the knee that day, so... Sorry b**ches, but it was a sharp jeans, nice top, and comfy flats night.
To the extent that the trappings of womanhood are all-too-often about being judged constantly by everyone around you, regardless of how much they ostensibly should appreciate/understand your situation, then color me beyond sympathetic.
Last edited by Zooey; 06-06-2014 at 02:57 AM.
Coming out is like discovering that you've been drowning your whole life after actually breathing air for the first time.
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In my case, and this kinda goes off from my previous post,
I appreciate all of the what I would call "hardnosed" women
here, who have perhaps crossdressed for a longer time than
I have, and their message is "don't play around, this is not a
game. Make sure this is what you want to do, because once
you start, you make choices that affect you, and those around
you."
I get that, and thanks for helping me make sure my head is in
the right place. My decisions are validated by going through
such testing.
My counselor remarked that I had not shaved recently and
called it an "attention-getting behavior". Every time she
mentioned it, I kept thinking: "No, I simply didn't have time
to shave before this appointment." So I see Zooey's point
about not giving people grief because they are not made up
to the nines.
And this is coming as someone who has been given a lot of
grief because I wasn't shaved properly, or because I have
a rather large collection of panties, or for some other reason
from some of the people here. And guess what folks, I *get*
it. It is better to have some constructive criticism here, and
be able to work on it, rather than have a mistake discovered
out in the world, where people may make fun of, or attack
you over it.
I will say that those questioning whether I am serious about
this, that's a bit harsh.
My hope is that I am on the path to making some friends,
and that I have a solid base of support as I explore what it
means to be a woman, outside of the clothes. I am a woman
now, but since I have never grown up as a GG, I am exploring
what that entails.
Anyways, enough preachy rant posty stuff for now.
Amy M. Jackson
Good mid-western sensibility & wisdom, Beverly! :-)
For lots of us, it has nothing to do with being 'worth it', any more than women think about all the little routines they go through every day as worth it or not, it's simply doing what is normal for who we are. We dress in female clothes because it just feels appropriate, not for a high, a sexual charge, or a thrill. Consider: You're at a formal event. Everyone there is wearing a tux. And you're in a bathing suit. Sure, it's a male bathing suit, so it's appropriate for your gender, but you'd still feel a bit out of place, right? That's how I feel whenever I'm wearing male clothing; it just feels as if I should really be wearing something else; and I don't get that feeling when dressed as a girl.
Some causes of crossdressing you've probably never even considered: My TG biography at:http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...=1#post1490560
There's an addendum at post # 82 on that thread, too. It's about a ten minute read.
Why don't we understand our desire to dress, behave and feel like a girl? Because from childhood, boys are told that the worst possible thing we can be, is a sissy. This feeling is so ingrained into our psyche, that we will suppress any thoughts that connect us to being or wanting to be feminine, even to the point of creating separate personalities to assign those female feelings into.
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Sometimes_miss, I totally agree with you that there is a feel that is missing when ya have to be dressed in drab. Even right now, I am
looking forward to going out to work tomorrow because that is when I usually get completely dressed up and the feeling of not wearing
the proper clothes goes away.
Now, some of the people I have talked with have suggested perhaps branching out into more feminine, but basically masculine clothes,
such as a hoodie that uses feminine colors or something. This is something I could see myself looking into, especially because I live in
Wyoming, and winter tends to be very cold and such ...
Amy M. Jackson
When completely dressed, with makeup, hair done just so, pantyhose on, wearing heels and a dress or skirt and then walking out the door knowing that I am all in so all I can do is my best girly self for the world to see because it will take an hour to get back to looking like a guy.
