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[Eryn]

...I just told him I was not 100% confortable with them yet.

And that is perfectly reasonable. This is a change for you, and a possibility that you probably hadn't considered at all. It takes time to get used to anything new.

With time, you and your husband will develop ways to articulate both sides of his being. Mimi and I find it convenient to simply use the appropriate names to designate the side of me that we're talking about. I'm a single being, and I do not consider my femme personality to be distinct from my male self, but it is very convenient to say "Eryn will be going to that event" rather than stumble over others way of saying it.

It is also natural for your husband to be uncomfortable. He has told you something that is potentially explosive. He doesn't know what his revelation will do to your relationship but he has taken the risk because he has faith in you. Your husband wants the best for the both of you. It is very likely that, if you keep communications open, your life and your husband's life will be richer for the experience.

Take baby steps, get used to each other, but keep talking to each other. Both of you will need to be willing to show a little forgiveness at times. It can be difficult, but the more you discuss it the quicker you will become comfortable with the situation. That's when the real enjoyment begins!

[Amylou2014]

He has told you something that is potentially explosive. He doesn't know what his revelation will do to your relationship but he has taken the risk because he has faith in you!

This is the greatest thing anyone has said to me thus far! These words really hit me deep. Thank you

[Jorja]

When you type in the word crossdresser in a search engine on the internet you will get a ton of porn sites. Do not get it in your head that all CDs are all like that. There are some like that but the most are really decent normal every day people that would never pose for those type of pictures and videos.

[Amylou2014]

When I searched I didn't get anything porn related.

[Charlotte Williams]

Many great pieces of advice are listed here and the only thing I'd like to add is that the feelings you and your husband are feeling are very normal. That might sound strange because of the unusual situation, but with all things considered your reaction and his embarrassment are both natural in the evolution of dealing with crossdressing. If I may recommend a book or two for both you and your husband to read in order to help with questions and discussion points, they are: "Crossdressing With Dignity" and "My Husband Wears My Clothes." Both books are by Peggy Rudd;

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/s/ref=mw...gy%20J.%20Rudd

P. S. You are an amazing woman, good luck

[MissTee]

For what it's worth AmyLou, you have a very good chance of getting through this because you are here seeking answers. Good communications and an understanding and respect of boundaries will get you through the emotional chaos. In time, perhaps his dressing won't seem so, well, perverse.

As for us, life has defined and redefined the meaning of significance many times. Like Isha here I am a vet, living on the adrenaline high in my youth and almost become a mortally wounded statistic 3 times. Add to that the heartache of getting through the death of a child and a grandchild that lived with us; a suicidal teenager; fear and uncertainty in job loss; and various economic hardships and prosperities. After all that, my wife has come to the conclusion she simply has a spouse with a strange fashion sense. So what he relaxes in a pink gown in the privacy of his own home. Worse things happen.

Good luck and hugs!!

[Amylou2014]

Misstee,
I'm so sorry to hear of your hardships in life, no one person should have to deal with all that.

With that being said, that was my first thought,
He's not cheating on me,
He loves me,
He's even sweeter now,

This could have been a lot worse.