For those of us over 60, how many of us would have transitioned if born in the 80s?

[Jeninus]

As, I think many of us, I yearned to have been a girl while growing up in the 1950s - actually, from about age 4 on. Of course, I knew nothing of transgenderism or GID and my parents were old-school British. There was no opportunity to become the first Kim Petras, that's for sure. There was high school, college, Army, marriage and a career as an attorney. However, my GID remains undiminished and I often wonder if I had been born in the 80s, would I have transitioned, or stayed as I am now - reasonably content in my role, but still feeling somewhat unfulfilled/unfinished. I believe if I were born 25 years ago I would have gone for it while still in my teens and by my early 20s would have joined the other team.

This question is aimed at those of us for whom time and the opportunity never happened. Would you have taken the plunge and, perhaps, sacrificed your family, childhood friends and probably the chance to have your own children, in pursuit of the dream? How important would that have been in your life?

[Teresa]

At last something I qualify for, the over sixties !
Whenever I was born I wouldn't want to change, whatever sex you're born as there must be good times and bad, and somewhere along the line the thought may have been there that the grass might have been greener !!

[Jodi]

Nope. I just like the clothes and dress.

Jodi

[Martha G]

Nope. I just like the clothes and dress.

Jodi

Same here! Also like to create characters I am dressed at as well.

But that's all.

[S. Lisa Smith]

I agree with the ladies who posted above. I love presenting as a woman, but I am also happy as a man.

[sterusjon]

I am in my mid sixties so allow me to chime in. Tinkerbell-GG is exactly right. This is a question that will filter the CDs from the TSes. If you are strictly CDer then nothing, nor any timing make any difference. For those of us who are are on the TS end of this spectrum, The issue is much more complicated. From my perspective, becoming a woman would be a serious consideration, no matter when I was born. While I was young, the '50's, 60's and early 70's, I would have seriously considered it if I had the access to the info that became available since and at that age been able to discern what my situation actually was. Wisdom comes with age.

My situation is one where I am GID, but not so severely that I have been suicidal, often, or dysfunctional, usually. My wife of nearly 46 years, God bless her, and I have come to an accommodation in the past few years that allows me to experience what I need to get along with myself and her. If, however, the hypothetical were true and I found myself, unattached, informed and understanding of my true self, I would jump at the chance to transition as a relative youngster. As things really are now, I am content with where I am right now.

Stephanie

[Ressie]

I'd have to say that being born 30 years later would have made a difference. I would have been more apt to come out as a CD, not a TS.

[Megan70]

Nope. I just like the clothes and dress.

Jodi

ibid... same here definitely

[JamieTG]

I don't think I would have transitioned but I would have come out and been myself much sooner. I'm 60 now and do wish society had been more tolerant when I was growing up. I spent way too many years deep in the closet and feeling guilty because I wasn't what society expected of a man.

[Rachel292]

I don't think I would have transitioned but I would have come out and been myself much sooner. I'm 60 now and do wish society had been more tolerant when I was growing up. I spent way too many years deep in the closet and feeling guilty because I wasn't what society expected of a man.

I'm 58 , and i'm more or less the same.
However this is very timely, as my mum basically asked me the same question on the phone today.
Answer = "It was in the past and i didn't even think about it then. As for now, i'm reasonably content with a male side and a femme side".
But to be honest, the femme side is getting more prominent.
In the past I had dreams and fantasies. Dressed occasionally and very ashamed of CDing. But that was then, it's different now.
And going back to the original question, I would definitly have been more open and no longer hidden away, and I really don't know, what I would have done. I still don't know if i'm CD or on my way to TS, time will tell.

[Aprilrain]

What does the 80s have to do with anything, I was born in the 70s and I transitioned. I know plenty of women born before me that have also transitioned. If you're not TS you're not TS and transition will do nothing for you except ruin your life. Transition is nothing to aspire to it's not the "ultimate" in crossdressing, in fact it has nothing to do with CDing. I've met more than a few women who have transitioned who never CDed a day in their lives.

[LeannS]

knowing what I do now and only wish I could have found out about ts/ cding. I would have done it 10 years ago but being older now I will just continue my dressing and enjoying my time doing it. Leann

[Bria]

No

Hugs, Bria

[AKKaren]

This topic comes up once in a while and it really makes me wish I was born in this day of information! I would have made much more informed choices in my life and not gone through the misery of denying who and what I am. Transition? Maybe...not a lot one can do with a frame as large as mine!

[Deedee Skyblue]

Not a viewpoint that is always acceptable around here, but I sometimes fantasize about being a totally straight male in a beautiful female body - with the exception of genitals. I doubt if being born in the 80s would have changed me enough to go through that process, though. (I would love to look like Misty May, with my male apparatus intact!)

Deedee

[Stephanie Sometimes]

Good question Jeninus. I don't spend much time wondering about hypotheticals but I have thought about that on occasion and the answer is that I don't really know but I know that I would have seriously considered it. As you say, the life context of the 80's is so completely different than the 50's.
Hugs,
Stephanie

[ArleneRaquel]

I would certainly consider it, but in the long run, it is very unlikely.

[Laura28]

No I wouldn't have. I might be more along in dressing though as it is more acceptable now with the younger generation.

[suchacutie]

All else being equil, I need both of my gendered selves. I only wish I had larger blocks of time in each gender.

[Michelle (Oz)]

Have never wanted to be female - even now. Thankfully I was blissfully ignorant of liking dressing through my children's dependency period so life remained less complicated.

[Lorileah]

This question assumes that you are transsexual and not CD. So answers from CDs will be "no".

[Tinkerbell-GG]

This question assumes that you are transsexual and not CD. So answers from CDs will be "no".

Exactly! Even a GG can see this. The other side would be - 'for those living now, in the modern generation, do you feel more pressure to transition because it's more acceptable??'

Again, if you're a CD you'll say 'no'. TS isn't a choice. It's innate. Time is surely irrelevant.

[LaurenS]

Early fifties here. I'm not sure, but I think I might have. Having recently begun to accept me for what I am, I have really enjoyed my femme moments. I likely would not have stayed in the closet.

[Desirae]

I think as much as people say on here that age doesn't matter, and, as long as you're not dead, it is never too late to transition, I still think it is a huge consideration for many, myself included. I would say that if I were born in the early 1990s, and knowing what I know today, I would certainly have given it sincere consideration.

[Aprilrain]

So I shouldn't have transitioned because I was born in the 70s? I was married and I have kids.