Wow, I have bottled up my feelings for so long on the topic of wanting to be a male. For so many years, I strongly Rejected and Hated being a female. Crying fits were and are still common and really just hitting rock bottom emotionally over it every so often is unavoidable. There was never anyone to talk to and I never knew how to express myself fully even if there was . As soon as I hinted at the fact of wanting to be male, people just said " You are so beautiful, stop being crazy!" I have never found 1 person that I can relate to.
Well, years later, I have come to be much more comfortable looking and dressing as a woman ( At one point I went from extreme fem to butch with male clothes and hair cut). I am once again fem and it is now actually fun as I see myself as a TV ( a male dressing up as a woman ). It is like I am acting a role and I must admit that I do like dressing fem as long as it is a classy/sophisticated/ strong look/power suits. However, I still don't and never did enjoy being female in bed and really don't like anything about what it means to be a regualr woman sexually or really on any level. My lesbian realtionships went bad as my partners wanted to be with a woman and not one pretending to be a man in bed. Being with men on any regular basis sexually is not possible, although the ocassional sexual encounter here and there can be tolerable. I have recently explored sexual encounters with men dressing as women and that is fun as they seem to be most comfortable with me wanting to be somewhat male/dominant.
Is there anyone else out there like me? I carry on very well in my career, but my personal life is hard to swallow. I should have sought therapy , but still can't even think of how to go about it. For so many years, I wanted to transition to male , but that wouldn't work for me as I want the to be 100% male from birth and not having to keep any of the female qualities about me.
I meet so many woman who just seem to love being one on all levels. Why when I HATE it and have always HATED it so much?
Any thoughts on this?