Thank you Jennifer. I honestly didn't even seriously consider telling her until I read your post in your signature. It wasn't that I thought I couldn't trust my wife, it was more of a absolute mortification of how my wife would think of me.
But anyway, i just wanted you to know that your post really helped convince me to come out with it sooner rather than later, and I am very happy I did. It's been interesting so far.
Jamey,
Thank you for your insight. So far, my wife has never seen me dressed. We've talked a lot since the other night. She asked about the clothes that I've worn, and if I had a wig, and where my stuff was. She asked if I had my own makeup (I do, but it's not much). She laughed and was playfully mad with me and said "you're better at makeup than I am, aren't you??" That was part of the initial discussion and it provided a good comical relief. (the answer: not by a longshot, and I told her so).
She was very weirded out, though. that's for sure. and she admitted that she currently couldn't see herself wanting to be involved in anything like that (teaching me how to do makeup or things like that), but she didn't say never. I just think she wants time to reaffirm that I'm still who I've been to her. If nothing else, telling her has made us so much closer. She knows something about me so very personal and secret that I've never really shared with anyone (present company excluded, obviously).
It always reminds me of that scene in the park from good will hunting where robin williams is talking about love and he says
.And if I asked you about love I'd get a sonnet, but you've never looked at a woman and been truly vulnerable.
That always made me feel guilty that I didn't have that with my wife. Now I do.![]()