From Tina's earlies moments my wife has not wanted any ambiguity about who is whom. Therefore, Tina is officially a girlfriend, and a platonic one. That decision has been extremelyhhelpful in clarifying our relationship and has also minimized the Tina contributions to what we tthought was my male self but was really a composite. She likes the fact that we more and more know which of my characteristics belong to which gendered self. I asked about this and she indicated that my masculine self was more masculine, which she likes, but also could call upon Tina's characteristics when useful...best if both worlds.