Hi everyone,
This is my first post so I hope I have started in the right place on the forum. To be honest not sure where to start and how to ask the questions I am seeking answers to.
My husband of 32 years is a crossdresser, I have known about a year now, I cant say it's getting any easier to understand as hard as I try I just find the whole thing confusing! maybe it's because I thought I knew my husband! perhaps I never have, that's the starting point I guess. He doesn't like to talk about it, he says he will then he gets defensive every time, he has said things like he's not attracted to me anymore, then he back tracks and says he does, that is just one example of the confusing messages I have had.
I have gone through what is probably the usual emotions, anger, leaving him, and every other one which is probably typical of the situation, i'm sure most of you have had to contend with. I know my husband is a stranger to you so hard to make any sense of this for me but, I need to talk to someone as I have nobody I could tell and trust.
I guess for the most part my husband has no answers for me, he says he just likes the clothes but I think it goes deeper than that, I just dont know how far! We have no intimate moments going on so it doesn't make me feel good about myself, that's what gets me most angry, I feel he prefers the woman he has become. I can see that he finds that part of him much more exciting than us right now. Will I just be here for company and thats all!!
As far as I know he had been dressing a year or so before he told me, he said before that he just didn't know himself that this was how he felt. The thing is he did say without even thinking it was significant that he put on his mothers underwear when he was a child, he past that off as something probably all kids do.
I went with him to a crossdressers wine and nibbles evening (he didn't go dressed) he just arranged to go as male by prior arrangment with the hosts to meet up and chat. They were a nice bunch of people and I had a good evening but open chat was limited. The thing is he really doesn't see himself as the same, i'm not sure he knows his own feelings at all or he is trying to deny them. It is really hard to put into words what I want to ask, maybe this post will start questions and answers and hopefully you can help lead me in the right direction, and I him.
I hope this doesn't come across as rambling nonsense really hard to talk to strangers, thought this would be easier, but no, thanks for taking the time to read this anyway.