I am the one who tells my wife, "if it wasn't for this dressing, instead of wasting my time dressing or even wasting my thoughts on it". I think I would be concentrating more on working and how to make more money. My wife believes the dressing is a gift and if it wasn't for the dressing not really would I be focused on making more money, maybe the opposite, maybe get into drugs or gambling. She believes our thirty year marriage is so strong because of the dressing, she loves being the only one holding my life long secret, she loves having a husband who shops with her, and having a man next to her when she needs a man. Maybe a removeing it from my life would make things worse. We always think on the bright side, if it wasn't this I would be there better now. Maybe removing it would be for the worst.