I inwardly bristle a bit at the "age appropriate" pc attitude. Granted, someone my age doesn't need to be shopping at Abercrombie, but I love it when I see a mature gg dialing up the stylish and sexy a bit.
I inwardly bristle a bit at the "age appropriate" pc attitude. Granted, someone my age doesn't need to be shopping at Abercrombie, but I love it when I see a mature gg dialing up the stylish and sexy a bit.
Always try to dress in a classic elegant feminine style for the event or season, but always be comfortable and confident in whatever I choose to wear! Enjoy.
This theme seems to role around too regularly. I keep telling myself not to get upset at those who should be supportive telling me that I don't dress age appropriately.
Thanks to all the ladies here that recognise we are already breaking society's golden rule, men must not wear dresses. What's one more broken rule after that? Dress for enjoyment, show some leg, hold age at bay, be different, be noticed, live life. Hasn't stopped me making some really good GG friends.
For those that know what is happening beyond their country border, go the Aussies!!
For those who are offended by CDers who don't dress age-appropriate, I have a solution: don't look.
Age appropriate dressing? Yes, how sensible for a man in a dress. Now if only I could stop dreaming of those infernal bandage dresses...
I always dress age appropriate, I never shop in the children's section, or the Juniors, section, but always in the women's section.
Beyond that, no I don't wear 70's style pant suits, even though it is common, among 70 year old women.
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These threads kill me as they ALWAYS divide into three general areas:
1) "there are no rules, dress as I like"
2) "I've seen 70 years olds with killer legs."
3) "I try to be age appropriate."
First, inherent in this question is that the cross dresser is going out in public. If you are a stay home cross dresser, this is not about you. Second, older does not equal frumpy. That is is a misguided thought at best. And third, "age" is not a number but a range.
Contrary to the "no rules" crowd, we all know there ARE rules. We see it daily. So, if you choose to flaunt the rules and genetic women sometimes do as well, then you must accept the consequences. The consequence being that most people will think of you as pathetic. That's really it. There will be no violence, no screams, no more pointing or laughing, just people thinking poorly of you. THAT is the consequence. We seem to care about this in our daily lives, why not care about it in our cross dressing lives?
There's age appropriate from the rear view and age appropriate from the front view. I have encountered many lovely rear views at the mall, nice legs in a short skirt or dress, and, nice looking rump, but, alas, when the gorgeous creature turns around, the front view just does not go with the rear view. Again societal expectations arise. Society says that short mid thigh dress belongs on my teenage granddaughter and not my wife with a BMI of 30+.
Me? I keep the dresses at knee length +/- an inch or two. Style of the dress? I check out the models showing off the dresses on websites. It's easy to see what society feels I should wear. One thing I have notice about myself is the fact a camera lens really shows what I really look like, and, not the vision I see in the mirror. That's in guy or girl mode.
But wear what you want. Only you have to bear the consequences.
Age-appropriate rules?
Maybe in the fashion industry, or business world, or school, or the military - there may be dress rules to follow. Maybe there are customary rules of dress for special occasions (weddings and funerals). Maybe there are seasonal rules to address summer heat or winter snow. Maybe it might help to think there are rules to follow and you will "pass" if you follow the rules. Maybe it is helpful to have rules, age-approipriate rules, if you enjoy being a critic of others. But reality is - people dress as they want to and should dress the way they want to dress. If you want to be noticed, you dress to be noticed. If you do not want to be noticed, you dress accordingly.
It's really a combination of where you are going, who you are with, what you look good wearing and what makes you feel good. The older I get, the more important it is for me to dress for myself and enjoy life. I really do not care what other people think, especially if I don't know them.
If you want to live your life by the dress rules and opinions of others, go ahead.
just last week I was in the 20 year old department when the SA told me I should be in the 40 year old department. Is there age appropriate? Someone tell Cher
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I missed out on crossdressing when I was 20 so Im making up for lost time! Hahaha
If I dressed age appropriate, my go-to accessory would be a walker. Actually, when I go out I dress body-appropriate. I try to make do the best I can with the body I have at this age. No mini-skirts and bare middles. Sometimes, a skirt slightly above the knee. Sometimes, one almost to the ankles. Did I answer the question?
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What Jennifer said...Originally Posted by Jenniferathome
The reality is that while every CDer has the right to "speak their own truth" as they see fit, they do not live in a vacuum, and their behavior - good or bad - ulimately reflects on all of us, not to mention the way in which we are perceived by the general public. While this may not necessarily be fair, it is what it is. And frankly, I don't want to be lumped in with the "fetish" crossdressers when they strut their stuff in public, and then be looked down upon as being just another "one of those..." (nudge, nudge, wink, wink) when I go out en femme myself.
When I go out in public as "Leslie", I always dress in an elegant (and I like to think) polished and sophisticated manner and in a way that is not out of place with wherever I might find myself. In fact, I typically dress a bit better than the GG's that I am surrounded by at any given time, and by raising the bar somewhat that way, I give them little ground on which to criticize me should they be so inclined.
This approach has always worked for me, and I have never had a bad experience in public as a result. If anything, it has led to compliments from GG's from time to time, not to mention some delightful conversations and sometimes even an exchange of fashion tips.
As Aretha Franklin once put it: "R-E-S-P-E-C-T"...
Hmmmm. Vedddddy interesting. People that wear the wrong clothes telling others WHICH wrong clothes to wear.
I drive a Honda.
Is that an acceptable vehicle for a CDer to drive?
And my current bike is a Kawasaki...?
Maybe I will have to start hanging out on the street corners downtown. I may have stripper style but its classy stripper style!!!! I will be the best dressed for sure! Yay! Hahaha
Just joking btw! Im just taking the other side to have some fun here!
No, Wild, it's not - unless it's a "Chickmobile" like a Honda Insight...
And do you really want to be riding a Kawasaki when you could just as easily be tooling around on a Vespa?
So many variable with this question I don't think there really is an age appropriate style. I've seen 65-70 year old women rock a mini skirt and heels that put younger girls to shame. I think it's more body appropriate in my opinion. I've seen 20yrolds wearing crop tops and daisy dukes that shouldn't be.
According to my wife, who can spot a Cd a mile away, ressing un-appropriately for one's age does not stick out as much as someone who is way over dressed for the current situation.
"It's always easy to spot the cross-dresser, they're the ones wearing the gown at the supermarket or the cocktail dress at a rollerskating party."
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Cara
This quote exactly.
I dress in a way that lets me feel comfortable being myself. I'm really not interested in dressing to please others, be it "age appropriate" to "blend" or whatever. This is my time and my aim is to enjoy it my way. End of story.
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I'm with Jennifer and Leslie on this one... If I'm going out, I personally choose to dress age-appropriately. I do so because I prefer to make myself appear as "normal" as possible, so that I can go about my day without having to feel self-conscious or potentially making somebody any more uncomfortable than necessary. In exchange, I expect people to treat me with that same respect, by dealing with me like a human being. I've been in the ladies room with women taking care of their children a number of times - our limited interactions give me hope that they appreciate me sparing them the majority of a conversation they didn't want to have with the child yet.
Ultimately, do what you like, especially in your home or at private events. GGs that dress age inappropriately or overly provocatively are ALSO the recipients of a lot of unwanted attention, usually negative (and sometime dangerous). If you're making a conscious choice about it, then own it, deal with the attention, and keep being a badass! If you just don't know how to dress appropriately, then make an effort to learn. THEN you can make a conscious choice not to do so, and THAT'S fashion.
I've met a number of girls who make the choice to dress inappropriately for their age (or the location, event, or...) and get huffy when people are staring or treating them inconsiderately. Respect in public goes both ways, and don't do the crime if you can't do the time.
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What a ridiculous notion! If I can pretend to be a woman I can also pretend I am 25.
Der Rules are der Rules! I'm 70 and I KNOW it's important to certain folks that I dress my age. So, I do. See?
However, Sherry is only 17. And, much like my daughter, doesn't give a crap how I or "they" feel.
If u think presenting as dowdy old maid is cool? Do it! But, us girls just want to have fun
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U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
I try to dress according to my surroundings. If I go to a movie as Jenny, comphy skirt , blouse and sandals. Going to a club I dress a little sexier. But I always wear some type of skirt, mostly above the no matter where I'm going asJenny. Just have fun!
Not that there's anything wrong with that...
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