Almost all the time there are threads or posts about how someone wishes or wants to go out in public while enfemme. Frequently they discuss the fears, dangers, or why they haven't tried it yet. I have been having so much fun with this that I want to share the joy with others. I have taken quite a few CDers on their first OUTing. It is a thrill to do so. If I can help someone get past the threshold, help them get OUT, then that is what this thread is about.
I have been crossdressing for almost two years now. For most of you that is but a small portion compared to your experiences. I feel humble in my craft compared to the more experienced. From the very first time I dressed, I went OUT in public. So I don’t know CDing as anything but OUT Enfemme. It has always seemed for me the reason to dress. Like building a hot rod and taking it out of the garage, taking it to see how fast it will go, the natural thing to do for me. So for me, crossdressing has always been OUT enfemme. I have been OUT enfemme in Austin Texas, Cincinnati Ohio, LA California, Ann Arbor Michigan, Saugatuck Michigan, Douglas Michigan, Milwaukee Wisconsin, Grand Haven Michigan, and Grand Rapids Michigan. About once per week in Grand Rapids, Michigan. That is maybe over seventy five times so far but I am really not keeping track, I am just having FUN! Of all the places, Grand Rapids has consistently been the best. I see others are concerned about going OUT. Although I have been OUT a lot (for me anyway) I have had no bad experiences. One time a guy whispered to his buddy and he tore himself away from texting for a whole five seconds. Another time a guy propositioned me in a bar, asking me if I would let him tie me up in bondage. Let me see,,,,,,, I just met you and you want me to let myself become helpless with you??!?? No and more NO!!!!!!! Another time the fire truck tooted their horn and waved, but my mini skirt was kind of short that day, the lace tops may have been peeking out, and my heels were kind of the fv<k me look. A guy approached me on the street and propositioned me. A guy in a gay bar wanted to feel me up. No and NO! Unfortunately, probably not much different that the sad usual that real women have to face. On behalf of the male population, ladies, please accept my apology.
For well over a year The Grand Rapids Crossdresser Social Group has been going OUT enfemme in Grand Rapids. We are selective about where we go and when we go there, like real women must be, unfortunately. Thus far we have had no incidents that were a cause for concern. We have had panhandlers or beggars approach us twice in the parking lot next to Rumors nightclub but they moved on when we told them no. One night an obviously drunk guy was yelling from about a half block away, just before he all but fell down. Another night a guy was begging on Ionia outside McFadden’s nightclub. All were no different than what a real woman has to deal with from the lower forms of the male gender. Again, sorry ladies.
Otherwise the people have been overwhelmingly accepting. Like the Pizza Hut manager and staff near The Network. The staff at Vitales. The ladies at Mikes Liquidation. Many stores and many restaurants.
Some have been accepting, although appearing bored. Like at The Bob, MoJo's, Olive Garden.
The Grand Rapids metro population, thank them all. Maybe I gave them something to laugh about, wonder about, or talk about. But I was having FUN! And maybe so were they. Mostly they glance, smile, and have a private laugh. Perhaps thinking either “glad it isn’t me” or “danged I wish I was doing that”.
So our experiences have been not unlike what a real woman has to deal with in her every day life. This has been an eye opener for me. I have always made it a point to be polite, respectful, and helpful to women. One time I was next to a woman who was obviously concerned about some guys making a fuss. I whispered to her that I was going to escort her to her car. When we reached her car, she thanked me. I told her that I hoped, should my wife, sister, mother, daughter, aunt, be in the same situation, that someone would do the same for them. At the time I never would have guessed that it would be ME. Another time at a club in Chicago two hic guys were somewhat aggressive in their approach to two women who were sitting at a table near me. I could overhear the conversation. The two women jumped up and walked to my table, ploppong themselves on either side of me. I said that I knew why thery were there, why they came to sit with me, that I knew it didn’t mean anything, and that they were free to go when they wanted to with no obligation. They thanked me and told me what the guys had done. This was years before I started CDing.
My point is that we as crossdressers have about the same risk as a real woman if we control our risks. Not just appearing as a guy who threw on a dress and a wig certainly helps. Buy avoiding dark isolated places, avoiding places that are frequented by a mostly male crowd, avoiding groups of males, frequenting places with larger percentages of women, picking known safe places, all stack the deck in our favor. Behaving like real women, looking like women, taking the same precautions as real women, we have successfully enjoyed ourselves over the last year and a half, with all but complete safety. And we have had SUCH FUN!
So if you are wishing to try getting OUT enfemme, from my (limited) experiences, it is well worth it. Last Friday we took Tammie out for her first time. She was with a group of more experienced CDers and we took her to a known safe place. She had a great time. We had a great time as her mentors, protectors, and friends. Find a support group. It does not have to be a formal minutes and dues kind of group. Our Grand Rapids Crossdresser Social Group has no dues, no meeting minutes, no gavel, no meeting. We really are just getting together to gab, share help and advice, and enjoy each other’s company.
If you want to, find a way. It is SUCH FUN!!!!!!
BTW my Avatar is now of me sitting on a bench on a Friday right in downtown Grand Rapids. No one is paying any attention.