Inside, I'm pretty girlie. But like many on this forum, I have a lot of boy interests...and a lot of male friends to go along with those interests -- absolutely none of them who know or would even suspect that I am TG. This past weekend was spent with four of my good friends in a bit of a throwback weekend (lakeside cabin)...something we do from time to time. Lots of booze, late nights, trash talk, and, invariably, a few manly barbs thrown around with gusto: "Don't be such a girl!" "I'd rather go out with a transvestite!" "Put your big girl panties on!"
I think you get the point. I've got decades of practice deflecting these types of testosterone-fueled remarks. But I always end up being a little embarrassed...sometimes if a barb is directed at me and hits a little close to home, I know I can get a little red-faced.
Do you ever deal with any of this? Aside from the tell-all strategy (which isn't going to happen in my case), how do you deal with and deflect these types of comments?
It would be priceless to see the looks on the faces of my friends if I were to 'fess up. But the blowback would be huge, and it's not an option.
I get pretty stressed leading up to these types of events...I'm careful not to shave a damn thing for weeks/months, etc. It's a shame, because I really enjoy the friendship, camaraderie, etc.
Any thoughts appreciated.