I'm going to try to keep this as brief as possible, but my apologies if this becomes a long read.
...as I've mentioned here before, my mother once found my "girly things" when I was about 11 or 12 and visiting family a few hundred miles away. ...we NEVER spoke about it, even in passing... even when I came out to her as transgender.
Tonight, my girlfriend (who knows EVERYTHING, but still loves me,) and I were talking to my mom... laughing and joking each other in a friendly way... when my mom (who doesn't know that my girlfriend knows) said out of the blue "you wanna go there? How about we talk about your (item found in backpack 19-20 years ago)?! Hmm?" ...it wasn't anything "dirty" even but...my face turned red and I felt shame wash over me like I was a kid that just got busted all over again.
My girlfriend and I texted (from the same room) back and forth a few times about the comment... and all is well with us, but I'm still a little hurt and confused by the comment from my mother. She's never been shy about not being supportive, but the subject has long been a "no man's land" between two opposing viewpoints. DADT. ...why did she bring it up?