Are you proud of yourself as a CDer and with what you have accomplished in that respect? Or do you feel perhaps that you should more direct your energies to what you can accomplish as a man? For myself I have accomplished all the goals I set out to do as a man in this life. Now I am just coasting and enjoying being myself and being independent now that I've been retired from the work force. I don't disdain any of my accomplishments as a man far from it especially in connection with my family. However, for some, there comes a time when we want to develop our whole selves as full spectrum people. For myself that included getting in touch with all of my feelings finally and taking ownership of them. I basically used the CDing as a vehicle to accomplish that as I know that simply wearing clothes doesn't make a person this or that. Who you are comes from within. Many may see CDing as a handicap or hindrance to their relationship with their SO or the SO may see it that way. Realizing what our priorities are is the key to understanding and that cannot be over stated. In any case I can truthfully state that I am happy to be who I am but it didn't get that way without a lot of honest work and soul searching. Are you proud of yourself?