Are there cds who really are just comfortable being cds and not transitioning?

[maya1love]

Hi all:

I have a question for all of you. I have spoken to many many crossdressers over the years. I get the sense that many crossdressers would either: a) transition if they could, but cannot for various reasons; b) on their way to transitioning.

Are there crossdressers out there who really feel comfortable in just being a part time crossdresser with no desire to transition? I feel very blessed to be just a part timer with crossdressing fantasies and do not have that angst about taking things further. What about you?

[Janet Bern]

I like to dress. the last thing I would want to be would be a woman

[Georgia_Maine]

I've asked myself this question many times over the past 50 years. Yes, I would be interested to know what it's like to be a fully functional female. But in the end, if I could choose either way, I'd stay the way I am.

[Bria]

I'm just a part timer CD, no more than that!

Hugs, Bria

[Rachael Leigh]

I only felt one time back in my life I wanted to be a women and I finally understood that was not me.
I enjoy being a man but I do love dressing in my pretty clothes in makup and all or not so I'm happy just dressing

[maya1love]

Nice to hear! I find that so many tgurls are uncomfortable with their male persona. When I talk to them, they inevitably say that if they could, they would transition, but for some reason, they cannot. Yet, I have no restrictions to transitioning, but have no desire to live full time as a woman. Could it be that we want what we cannot have?

[Nadine Spirit]

I am not a part time cross dresser. I am a full time gender non-conformist. Thus my argument as to why I am not interested in transitioning - I would be stuck in the same position. I would still be a gender non-conformist. I don't conform to the male gender, nor the female gender. I exist somewhere in the middle and am totally fine with it. I am of the believe that this is the way that I was born, and it is only up to me to accept it. If I accept it, it is irrelevant what anyone else thinks of me.

[Candice Mae]

CDs do not transition, CDs can dress full time but transitioning is for TSs.

[GingerSeti]

I've thought about that a lot. I think if I had decided to do it it would have been in my 20s, probably too late now. All of the things that happen to a guy's body as he ages are not reversible now.

G

[Jenniferathome]

I think your original statement is way off the mark. Those few with whom you have spoken are in the great minority. Transsexuals do not finds excuses to not transition. They find ways to make it happen.

I have no desire to, nor have thoughts of, transition. I'm a guy. I like being a guy. I happen to also be a cross dresser. This is the norm.

[maya1love]

Jennifer, I do believe you are right that transsexuals transition, and crossdressers do not. I attend my local trans social group, I have been to the Southern Comfort Conference and I talk to tgurls alot on the internet, and I meet alot of gurls who really don't see themselves as just garden variety crossdressers, like myself. They want more. And I find that amazing simply because I feel like there is no one like me who just says, "hey, I like to wear women's clothes and that's it". It is more than that for them -- they want to be women. But, I appreciate that there are folks here in this thread who seem comfortable in just being a crossdresser.

[siantv2003]

I think your original statement is way off the mark. Those few with whom you have spoken are in the great minority. Transsexuals do not finds excuses to not transition. They find ways to make it happen.

I have no desire to, nor have thoughts of, transition. I'm a guy. I like being a guy. I happen to also be a cross dresser. This is the norm.

I have to agree with Jennifer ... I think that the 'many' you have spoken are actually in the minority.

Speaking for myself, I am perfectly happy being a cross dresser. Would I like to be more open about it .. sure but society is the problem with the way we stereotype people!!
Do I want to transition and become a woman .. hell no! I like the duality of my life. Sian allows me to be a softer more caring person who happens to dress in wonderful, beautiful clothes - her other half, like to get his hands dirty so to speak and deal with things typically related to masculinity.

[Crissy Kay]

I think your original statement is way off the mark. Those few with whom you have spoken are in the great minority. Transsexuals do not finds excuses to not transition. They find ways to make it happen.

I have no desire to, nor have thoughts of, transition. I'm a guy. I like being a guy. I happen to also be a cross dresser. This is the norm.

I have to agree with Jennifer also. I am very happy being a part time cd. I have had no interest in being a woman at any time. I just enjoy wearing fem clothes every so often.

[Talisker]

Think the OP sample selection is not representative of the population.

Happy to be part time CD.

[Ashley Lyn]

Strictly part-time here as well.. Have been CDing for close to 60 years, and not changing now..
So glad I was able to find an accepting SO.. makes my like so much easier..
If only we wore the same size clothes.. BUT, then she doesn't like my 'style'.. (long legs and short skirts)

[Julie Denier]

I have no desire to ever transition. I am very happy being a guy -- I just like to dress up now and then.

[Isabella Ross]

Just like Julie, and many others on this thread, I love being a transgendered guy who loves to both be a guy, and dress and feel like a woman on a part-time basis. I also believe we are the vast majority rather than the exception, Maya.

[marsha leanne]

at one time . i was entranced by transitioning, but it was not for me. i enjoy my maleness, and plan on keeping it. i just like to 'dress up' at times. I'm good just the way i am.

[hope springs]

I fantasize about being a woman, but have no overwhelming desire to transition. I feel no anxiety about being a guy, nor depressed im not a woman. I definitely on the gender spectrum somewhere, just not so far i have to transition to feel whole. Good question

[Butterfly Bill]

I like being able to pee standing up and not have to wait in long lines at restrooms too much.

[PaulaQ]

@OP - yes. The majority of you will never transition.

[susangirl]

YES YES. YES. I am glade I'm a man. I just love dressing up as Susan in the soft and silky clothing women get to enjoy. Being out in public dressed as a women and getting away with it is such a high. The look, the walk, the make up, the effort you have to put in to look and act like a woman. I love every min but at the end of the day I need to be a man.

[Valerie Sparks]

Right now society sees me as male though I underdress daily and when I have time alone I'm me. But if society (and, more importantly, my wife) were OK with me presenting myself as either male or female then I'd probably be about 90% female and 10% male. I don't think I'd get any surgery done but I would probably pay for laser hair removal. So does that make me CD or TS? I'm not sure I know.

[Eringirl]

Well, it looks like I am in the minority here....If I was 20 years younger, I would seriously consider transitioning, at least investigating the possibility and the process. However, I am now content with not transitioning. Having said that, I wear female underclothes everyday, my nails are long and always done, and carry my "murse" with me everywhere I go. I am looking into piercing both my ears and laser beard removal. Is this not a type of transitioning?? I am not saying I will do ears and laser treatment as I am working on finding the "sweet spot" of what I can do daily that allows me to thrive, my wife to thrive and us as a couple to thrive. I think we just about have it figured out. So, as Carla posted, transitioning may also have "sliding scale" ???

Just me...

Erin

[Kaitlyn Michele]

I hear what you are saying but words matter and
no that is not a form of transitioning.... transition is transition.

think about it, and try to describe what a partial transition is.. transition to what?? a partial woman? it doesn't really mean anything if you think about it

what you are doing is feminizing yourself.....alot!!hehe
People that transition do that as well but transition is not about feminization...it just helps the transition ..lots of manly transitioners out there..

i whole heartedly agree that being content is the name of the game .. and perhaps saying something like you are partially transitioning may help you in some way..... reading your post don't be surprised if you end up transitioning someday...and if you do, you will very clearly see what i'm saying..

btw the last two people i said that to are now transitioning...so look out because

if...I was younger
I would....

becomes

if ....(the gd hits)
you will... (transition)