my first time out with my wife! and hope for others
Yesterday, my wife and I made our first steps out into the world together with me fully dressed!!! Big steps for her and I am so happy and proud!!!
A quick bit of background. I had never told my wife of my dressing. 2 years ago circumstances occurred that ended up with me in a thong (and loving it! ) and we progressed to me wearing them daily, then to shopping for clothes and shoes, and make up. It seemed like things were going well and she was supportive. I took the opportunity to buy some forms and wigs and one day completed the look for her for a night in. It was a big step, but seemed to go well. A month goes by and we start to have some marital issues. Some things were said, and it became obvious she wasn't as enthusiastic as I had perceived. This let to me having deep feelings of rejection and a lot of self esteem issues. I began to question every other aspect of our relationship. This led to us separating for a while. During this time we continued to talk identity issues.
Over a year has passed since the first time my wife first saw me totally dressed. During this time, my wife was able to realize dressing is a part of me, part of my past, and part of my future. It is who I am. Maybe she was able to accept or at least come to terms with things. It certainly wasn't over night and it was on her own terms. Her efforts and willingness to try has helped me feel accepted again.
Recently, we began to reintroduce feminine aspects into my life. We have begun shopping again. She has begun suggesting thongs again, and about a month ago we made our first trip to a nail salon for mani/pedi with color!!!
Last night we were at home and playing with some new make-up purchases. She helped me complete my look and style my hair. She complemented my look and I jokingly suggested we go catch a late movie, fully expecting it to be a dvd.. She thought for a second and asked what would I wear and what should she wear. We coordinated clothes and It became obvious she was preparing to actually go to town. I admit my heart races with excitement. This was about to be the defining moment of feeling accepted by my wife.. and the anticipation was intense.
I finished up my outfit. Decided on a flowing purple shirt. 7 jeans. And a pair of wedges. Not the skirt and heels I would have wanted, but much more event appropriate.
We walked out of the house together and my smile was huge and obvious. We were actually too late to make a movie so filled the car up with gas, went to a frozen yogurt shop and had a dessert. Then made the obligatory trip to Walmart and bought some new colors of nail polish, and some new sleep clothes for us.
All total we were out for 3 hours. It would have been an unremarkable night in drab. But fully dresses it was an incredibly special night to me and a lot of fun. I was in heaven!. My wife showed me unconditional support, love and acceptance of me. I can not thank her enough for her effort and for all of the unexpected stuff has to put up with by being married to a cross dresser.
I believe my wife got to see that no one cared. Nothing happened to me her feel uncomfortable. The world didn't end.. and we had fun!!!
My wife wins the SO of the year/life award!!! At least in my book.. ha ha
I hope others who feel their SO hasn't been supportive might read my story and find hope that things can improve. Communication is the key to our success.
Originally Posted by cdnovice
