I would like to hear how you have tried to improve your Don't Ask Don't Tell relationship and what has worked and what has not.
I have been married for 26 years and we have had a DADT relationship all this time. My wife is somewhat supportive on occasions, but most of the time she would rather not have to deal with my cross dressing. I have tried to talk to her about my cross dressing, but it ends up being a one way conversation, and I really don't know how she feels and what she thinks. I have tried to keep it "under control" and not to do too much in front of her. We raised 2 wonderful kids, who do not know because my wife does not want them to know (that is a different topic), and our youngest just went off to college so we have the house to ourselves now. I have a lot more opportunities to dress, but I want to make sure I set some boundaries and make sure my wife is good with it. I would also love to have her support and acceptance rather than have her keep ignoring a part of who I am.
Thank you in advance for your experience share.
Lisa