My problem is pretty much, what a good minister told me in 1985. I have a toxic, harsh, alcoholic, manipulating evil father. Here it is 29 years later, and the man is going on 94, in a wheel chair, had been in a nursing home, for 8 months, but returned home, and his single adult children have to care for him, because he refused to stay in the nursing home. My brother is taking off for six weeks, and i will have to help a lot more. The man gives me an evil hateful look. He tried to get me adapted by an uncle , when i was a kid! My mom told me , he was always jealous of me, resented me. HIS SON!!He was anti social, a people hater, and hated when i played sports, and he never came to my games. He preached to me, to be a loner. He always said he had the worst life of anybody. Self pity always. That minister has died of cancer, but he was so right! He got me to go to Adult Children of Alcoholics groups. I wish there were some around here! The minister was right, but, i have kept quitting jobs and businesses, to come 2000 miles, to rescue my father. I hope the man dies soon, and rests in peace. That is a lot of my problem. And most men in prison, had no father, or toxic cruel ones.