I have read many posts about those that are in a DADTDS (don’t ask, don’t tell, don’t show) relationship. One post in particular just last night where a GG said that she does not want to see any sign of her husband doing something that is considered to be traditionally feminine; like for example, shaving any part of their body. The point being that many of these women want to see their men as men; they do not want to stop seeing the masculine covered up or obscured by traditionally feminine things.
This got me thinking this morning; I wonder does it go both ways? Are any of you that have SOs who tell you how they want you to dress and behave, do you also get to tell them how they get to dress and behave? That maybe you want them to do things that are considered to be traditionally more feminine and that you do not want to see them do things that are traditionally considered to be masculine.
Like for example, it is fine that they do not want to wear makeup, but you want to see them with makeup. Or maybe, it is fine that they want to wear pants, but you just don’t want to see it. Or how about you want to make sure that when your children see their legs, they had better be shaved because you don’t want them to confuse your children about what mommy is choosing to do?
Okay, so maybe I am being a bit sarcastic (who me?) but I am honestly curious if it goes both ways? I suspect that maybe it doesn’t. Because I get the impression that this is how our society goes. It is okay for women to do a variety of things both traditionally masculine and feminine and it does not make them any less of a woman, but honestly from what I read, many GGs do not want their men to do things that are traditionally seen as feminine because it does make them less masculine, and it is a problem.
I am curious as to what other’s thoughts on this are as being gender non-conforming 100% of the time, I frequently ponder traditional masculine and feminine roles in our society and I think I see things a bit differently than most.