This is a post that lead to my new post.
"Would You Have Married Your Husband If You Knew He Was A Cross dresser? (GG's Only)
I have read today and yesterday two threads by Tinkerbell and WifeofDonna. It really pains me to read of the torment these women are experiencing. I am a married man (40+ years) to the same woman. I have had my own experiences with the pain of the women.
So, based on what you knew about cross dressing when you FIRST dated would you have married him?
Based on what you know about cross dressing NOW would you have married him?
I'll throw my two cents in later."
I was not suppressed with what was said, but was enlightened. Got me thinking.
To the CD, TS here;
First Question
Base on what you knew about crossdressing then, when you were first dating, would you have ask, her to married you or even gotten in to dating at all?
Second Question
If you knew then what you know now about your dressing, or being Trans, would you have gotten married or even dated?
To start I got married at 21 the year was 1974, there was nothing on the subject, I did dress at a early age mostly in my mothers clothes. I did not here about Crossdressing or Transexuals at all I was a lone thought there was something wrong with me.
I am not to sure it was that, I lived in small town, that I did not know anything, I think it was the time 60's and early 70's. will have to see what other have to say on that. The first time I saw anything was on TV was the Donahue Show this was the mid 70's, what I saw was not me, or anything I want to become. The first time I saw anything real about CD or TS was a HBO documentary on Transsexual, Mid 80's there were two stories, one MTF and one FTM.
From an early age there was shame, and discuss with my self, did all the manly thing to hide it, wore nurtural colors, keep a way from bright color, that might out me “the mind of a paranoid”. I thought I could stop at any time, but never did. When I got married I did stop for a while, but it came back, purge, came back, every time it come back it came back stronger. Then in the 90's I went to a conference, that weekend Colorado Gold Rush was going on, so I stayed, I did not have a wig did have clothes, I had found Studio Lights on the web before I left home, went there one night after my conference. Talk to the owners, I got my first wig from them, I had planed on going to the Gold Rush, but was starting to chicken out. I told them my name, and we had a good visit but told them I had decided not to go to the Gold Rush. What I did not know was they told someone about me, that night that person show up at my door, in all her glory. She said she was there to take me to the Gold rush, she told me to get dress, but not put any make-up on, that was good I had make up but did not know the first thing about putting it on, I had got it for this trip. So out we go, and down to the Gold Rush, one of the venders was a make-up artiest that had work in the movies. My new friend, Dianne paid for my registration, and paid for a make over from the make-up artiest. What a thrill, she monitored me the rest of the day, and that night we went to the final banquet.
The next morning I flew out when I got home, the first thing my wife noticed was the make-up I did not get off the night before. We talk that day, and she ask me if I had any more clothes, I said yes, she said bring them home, she wash everything that night, and we put them away. That is how I got caught, she has been supportive at time, hostel at time, tolerate the rest of the time. She took it better than I thought she would, from what I have learned here, we have a 15% chance of the wife being supportive or tolerate of our dressing.
My first Question
Base on what you knew about crossdressing then, when you were first were Dating, would you have ask, her to married you or even gotten in to dating.
Yes, I could handle it. I could stop.
Second Question
If you knew then what you know now about your dressing, or being Trans, would you have gotten married or even dated.
No, the pain I have caused her, even tho she has been good with it. I would hope, if I knew then what I know now, I would be man enough to not even dated, and become the person I was meant to be. The pain this has caused both of us, is a lot, and it not over, I know I am TS, how far I am going to take it, I don’t know, but it not finished.
Keeping in mind, you have no knowledge of the future, so your decision it is based on you and only you.
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Closing thoughts.
She did not chose this, and neither did I, I did not chose this over my family, this is who I am, it not addiction. It is who I am, if I keep saying it maybe someone will hear me. It like I have been in a coma, all my life and I keep saying I am here, can anyone hear me, I am a girl. No one ever hears me. The first part of my life nether did I, oh there were signs, for every one to see, they were ignored, even I ignored the signs.
I want to thank Angie, Samantha and Amanda for there encouragement and support.
), if I were to have to start over again, I'd get my transgendered house completely in order before starting to date. By that I mean that I would make sure that Tina was comfortable being in the world alone because it would be very possible for a potential mate to out Tina if things went wrong in the beginnings of a relationship. I'd be up front early with it so that the relationship would not develop without Tina in the picture.
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