So, it has been almost two weeks since I had the reveal talk with my wife. I am posting this thread to educate all those contemplating the talk or on the verge of the talk. In a nutshell, my wife's reality has been turned upside down . She still cannot see me as a man , as her husband , as her lover & as a honest person. She is abhorred by the thought of seeing me en femme. Dressing as a woman is inconsistent to being a man . I could go on & on about her objections, but I think that Tinkerbell's many posts on this subject encapsulates my wife's reality & my corresponding hell.
Please be advised that I fully prepared for this talk. The many sages on this forum supplied excellent & supportive advise. I purposely delayed the talk for some time due to my wife's medical condition. I factored in all known variables & decided that the timing was right. Succinctly, I wanted my wife to know the truth , devoid of deception and any happenstance discovery.
I could talk ad infinitum about our post reveal reality, the devastation of our relationship & the uncertainty of our future relationship. We will be going to counseling & I am praying that professional help can hopefully start the renewal of our relationship. I love my wife, will do anything to ensure our future together, but realize that only she holds the key to the future of our marriage.
The talk has devastated my wife. She cannot touch me, look at me or talk to me with love or trust in her heart. I want you all to know that not every reveal talk goes well, that once the genie is out of the bottle that your three wishes can be three nightmares. One needs to think very long & hard before opening up the bottle. The only encouraging comment made by my wife was that she wished that I had kept my cding a secret... Not a very encouraging reply.
I want to thank all of my dear forum friends for their pre reveal advise & post reveal support. There are many good souls in this forum. My advise to those with understanding wives is to cherish your blessings. Never take for granted that you have an understanding spouse. Never whine or complain about her problems in dealing with your pink fog . If she understands your need to cd, then thank God for that blessing.
Be positive, think positive & be thankful for your blessings. Understand that what we do is weird, is inconsistent with nature & a reality that many women cannot accept. I don't know what is in store for our relationship. I will work hard to preserve it. I again pray that my wife can join me in that joint effort. Much peace to all , mel