Okay, so I’m in a DADT situation with my lovely wife. Came out to her a few years ago, the usual questions, gay? Transsexual? Want to be a woman? Etc. Nope, just your straight, married, heterosexual crossdresser. To her credit, she tried to accept, advised me a few times to keep some dresses, shoes that I’d ordered online, gave me some of her lipstick, nail polish, even had me dress in front of her a couple of time, but ultimately couldn’t handle it. By her nature she always tends to go to the worst case scenario, in this case that I might someday want to transition, ”cut it off”, etc. In short, it made her anxious, uncomfortable, which I totally understand. So we just kind of reached an unspoken understanding: she knows I crossdress, I don’t hide the fact, my femme things are in my closet, my panties in the laundry, if I don’t put wash and put them away first, she does. I dress when I’m in the mood if she’s out, she usually calls before she comes home, I make sure I’m back in guy mode before she gets home. Not a bad arrangement, but I’d certainly prefer to not have to do the cat and mouse game. But again, I understand her anxiety and reluctance and don’t want to distress her, but also don’t want to deny myself the pleasure I have from dressing and wish she could be more understanding and accepting. Anyway, a couple of months ago, in response to a post on this site, I got “Men in Bras, Panties and Dresses” on my Kindle. It’s a pretty good examination and explanation of crossdressing as opposed to transsexualism, and I felt addressed a lot of her fears in this regard. I considered suggesting that she read it, but decided that might be too pushy and she might resist it and prefer to not have to deal with it to that extent. So… I just left it on my Kindle, knowing that she sometimes reads books that I have and hoping she might notice it, read it of her own volition, assuage her concerns and open up a dialogue leading to more openness and freedom to dress as the mood strikes me, even in her presence if she could be okay with it. She has indeed used my Kindle a few times since, but never mentioned the book… until last night. We were having a glass of wine before she was going out to see an pre-opening rehearsal of a friend’s show, and she says, I noticed on your Kindle, “Men in Bras…”, would you object if I read it? I very calmly said, no, not at all (while inside I’m thinking, YES!! IT WORKED!!!) That was all that was said, we finished our wine, she left for her evening, I put on a black mini-dress, panties, bra&forms, lipstick, jewelry, black strap heels, toenails done earlier in the day, had some more wine and enjoyed my evening alone en femme. When she called to say she was on her way home, I changed back to men’s shorts, t-shirt, socks to cover the toenails, left the panties on and greeted her in my usual male clothing. A little more wine and some TV before bed, nothing more on the subject. Wondering now when she will get around to reading “Men in Bras…” and affect it might have. Hmmmmm…
