Well my parents discovered my girly clothes when I was in high school andade a spectacle of it. They paraded me to a Christian therapist and made me meet with our pastor weekly for a long time. That is not good for anyone I think. Since telling my wife that I dress she has said she wants left out of it but, I know she still loves me. Obviously you love him sound would stick with that. That you love him and how ever involved you want to or do not want to be is your choice. It would be the same if he were a motorcycle rider and you thought it was dangerous or scary. It doesn't have to change much between you two at all. Wait a while for the shock to wear off.