Every once in a while, we hear a news story about a man who walks into a police station to turn himself in for robbing a bank decades in the past and getting away with it but couldn't live with the secret any longer. (I'm not equating crossdressing with bank robbery). For whatever reason a voice inside says "now is the time to tell". The way I read the post, Jennifer is not advocating telling NOW, but when the time is right, and you'll know when that is.
There is really no way of knowing how things would have turned out if they had been done differently or at another time. In other threads, Jennifer said that she came out after 20+ years of marriage. Who knows, it may have taken those 20+ years for the marriage to become solid enough to survive the revelation, or it may have survived long before that. My marriage of just a few years didn't survive - maybe it would have if I had kept my secret for 20+ years. But there was no way of knowing.
I agree with Isha that liar liar condemnation on the forum doesn't help.