Small triggers lead to other issues and problems. Does anybody else these problems?

[Sissyboy2]

Does anybody else have problems with this. Sometimes wven just quickly browsing this forum for advise leads to other ideas and I then instantly start watching videos that arouse me. I don't like to masterbate after especially because I know the damages it can take on a relationship and your body. With me it doesn't take much to get me started small triggers. I guess a professional would say that you have to eliminate your triggers. Its just crazy how going to a forum can lead to other things. Maybe I wrote this thread to start to give some motivation. Even when I wear the clothes its all sexual for me. After the masterbation, the clothes go back in the closet.

Also I have seen other post about how CDing can take so much of your time. How have others delt with this. Should I try to rewire my brain and do activities that keep my mind focused.

[Kate Simmons]

Sometimes just learning to prioritize things helps SB.

[Rachael Leigh]

I would say fetish dressing is usually very complecated especially how it effects our brains

[Joan.Meredith]

"rewiring" the brain is not a easy process, it takes a lot of time and effort. As for triggers, I have to be careful how long I look at men's underwear adds. It gets me all bothered if I'm not careful. Then its all down hill from there, the brain takes over and then I real start to fantasize a lot. But I can look through the ladies adds without any problems about 95% of the time.

As for CDing taking a lot of time, I agree if I'm not careful I won't get anything done anywhere if it's all I focus on. But that also goes for some of my hobbies, I can focus on building my RC boat or working on the train layout like NO one's business.

Joan

[Nikkilovesdresses]

I don't like to masterbate after especially because I know the damages it can take on...your body.

Are you saying that masturbating has damaged your body?

[carahawkwind]

I don't like to masterbate after especially because I know the damages it can take on a relationship and your body.

Huh? Any sort of real evidence for this? Sounds like something they would tell you at church to scare you, rather than anything based on real science.

[Dianne S]

Masturbation is perfectly harmless unless it becomes such an obsession that you can't function normally or (if you have a partner) it starts interfering in your normal sex life. Masturbation is just about the safest possible "safe sex" there is, so go ahead and enjoy it guilt-free!

[CONSUELO]

First don't get embarrassed about masturbating when dressed. It is something that probably the majority of the CDer's on this site have done. i think the label "fetishistic transvestite" fits me well for as a very young child the mere act of putting on a slip would be sexually arousing. Over time that diminishes and you find that you dress because it feels right and calming and comfortable.
Don't overanalyse yourself and your actions. Relax and you will reach equilibrium. Try just dressing and then doing something non-sexual like reading or watching a TV programme. At first the desire to do something sexual may be strong but just resist for a while and you may start to feel other enjoyable sensations that come from dressing that are not so overtly sexual. After a while you will find a balance.

[Trishpdxcd2]

This is an interesting thread and some here would say that dressing isn't tied to sex. I think that is true as we are all different and for some dressing is tied to gender, to sex, to feeling comfortable. But there is not denying for me that there is something sexual about dressing, it releases the same type of endorphin's that sex does even if I don't do anything sexual. I was shopping online for a xmas dress yesterday and was aroused while doing it and I often am when I shop online for clothes. I really can't say how it is all tied into sex, if crossdressing is a fetish, I just know I enjoy it even if it makes life more complicated.

[Rhian]

There's nothing wrong with masturbating, it causes no health issues and it's normal to masturbate in a relationship.

[Kandi Robbins]

I share similar circumstances. Through out my life, I have been sexually aroused from whatever dressing I did. I then "took care of that" and felt like crap afterward, immediately getting rid of whatever clothing I had or purchased (that get's expensive). As I have grown older and probably began losing testosterone (I'm not a doctor, so what do I know), the sexualization has subsided significantly. If you can fight off the urge to masturbate (not easy), those feelings will eventually subside. The masturbation definitely creates self-loathing and guilt issues, at least that's my experience. My triggers for dressing (and I have gone long stretches without ever even thinking about it) are intense stress and or complete boredom, where my mind is not engaged in anything. CDing always rushes in when I leave big gap in my mind. OK, I'm rambling, just remember, you are not alone.

[Angie G]

For myself I find my dressing to be not in the least sexual. I think it's just the part of me that is real woman. When I dress I in my head at least am a woman.And doing things around the house on the inside anyway is done in girl mode. It may come to you soon that it just feels good and need not be eneything more.
Angie

[Beverley Sims]

You are starting off in a similar way to the rest of us, as you mature triggers will change and there will be other forms of excitement to keep you occupied.
Yep! dressing wastes a lot of time.

What a waste though.

[vallerie lacy]

Boy could I say a few funny things here about hurting your body. Calm down and get a hold of yourself. You'll feel better in the end

[Desirae]

If you ever figure out how you can rewire your brain, please let me know. Ahh, maybe not. Although my CDing does still bother me in some respects, and it might sound appealing to figure out a way to stop it once and for all, I can't help but wonder if I might feel some kind of "emptiness" inside of me if it were to ever truly go away. I just don't know. Like another member said, fetishistic dressing can be hard. Hot, then cold. One second its here, then another its gone. To be honest, I cheat most of the time. I don't feel like getting all dressed every time that urge comes over me. Somehow, over the past several years, I was able to arouse myself just in my mind. I just close my eyes and imagine myself dressed (or whatever other fantasy works) and I can stimulate myself to climax that way. This is not to say that I don't dress at all. I do. Sometimes I dress just to relax. I'm not sure how "many" times you "dress" in a day. What's the limit on that? Is there a limit? I guess I could dress 4 or 5 times a day if I really wanted to and had nothing else to do. But, that would be excessive, would it not? You gotta get to the point where you are controlling your dressing and not the other way around.

And as far as you doing one thing and it leading to other things, I can relate with that. Pretty much anything can turn into a sexual trigger. I have a flash video game on my computer I play. It is a sporting game with female players. When I first got it, and for quite some time after that, I used to imagine myself as one of the players. Well, eventually I made some kind of connection in my brain and started getting really turned on by it every time I played it. I bet if you tried hard enough you could forge a sexual connection in your brain with kitchen floor linoleum if you tried hard enough. We guys are like that. It doesn't take much. But, go back to do you want "it" to control you or the other way around?

[Tina B.]

I know they said it would make you go blind, but I though as long as you quit do it when you got glasses, it would all be all right?
If it hurts your body, your doing it wrong!
It's you mind it will hurt, and that is only the guilt they gave you.

[LilSissyStevie]

You may need to reboot.

http://yourbrainonporn.com/

[sammysays]

As a teenager I would dress up in my Mothers clothes out of a curious desire and then I would become aroused. Masturbation to this day is still a wonderful thing, no matter how attained.