Thanks Isha. My H is the sexual/fetish type so it's probably more of a sore spot than need be And I agree - it ultimately doesn't matter why or how, but what you do with it when you get there. Follow your inner truth, whatever that may be, and the questions will disappear.
Isha and Kate Simmons, you are prime examples of people who have done exactly this, and your smiles say it all x
Edit: Okay Katey