Hi again everyone..
I posted here a little while ago after my best friend (who I've had feelings for for years) came out to me about his CD. Supporting him wasn't the issue, I was more concerned about whether or not I would still be attracted to him no matter what he wore.
Well, we took the first step forward...we decided that the potential for happiness together was worth "risking" our friendship, and that we want to try dating.
We were on our way home from a road trip and had to stop at a motel because he couldn't keep his hands off me...
Anyway. Over the course of the night I met "Jenny." My guy is very into role reversal, so Jenny can come out during sex even when no clothes at all are involved (heehee).
Unlike how my friend usually is, Jenny is so shy and cute...very sweet and cuddly, and searching for love and security. She's like a totally different person. Looking into the same eyes I've fallen in love with and seeing them just searching for my love and approval...I couldn't not love Jenny, too. I wasn't sure how I'd get along with her, or if I would still want to "do things" with her...but it was surprisingly easy...
But after that it was like the floodgates had opened. Jenny opened up to me (as best she could, she's awfully awfully shy) about all the things she wanted to do...go shopping for dresses with me...have me to her makeup...help her get a new wig...
I told her of course we could do those things. But in my head I was thinking...okay, I love you, I'm okay with this, but can we throw on the brakes for a second??! My guy just seemed so happy to be opening up and just so happy to be with me, sharing all of himself with me, there was no way I was killing that buzz. But moving forward, I want to let him know that we're in this together and that while I think I can handle anything he throws at me, I still a.) need my guy to still be my guy!!! And b.) need to really take this slow, one step at a time...
I feel like I need to get my feet wet and ease into it...I'm so afraid that if it's too much at once I'll get overwhelmed and shut down/shut him out, which would virtually kill him. He's so sensitive and delicate and vulnerable right now. I need to tread carefully.
So, my confident happy CD'ers in successful relationships...advice to how to bring this up to him?
And I'd love to here from other GG's with similar stories and experiences...going from being exclusively intimate with men to heading into a more gray area of love and sex with someone is a little scary and confusing...I need to be strong for him but I'm feelin' like I need some support at the moment!!
Thank you all,
Annie