Oh no I hate technology

[Mink]

I for one LOVE technology!

I mean thank god for Cars and not having to walk everywhere and hospitals that keep people alive!

and movies / tv / music etc!

why if it wasn't for technology we'd all be doomed!

[Ally 2112]

I hear what you are saying Mink in regard to my post and you are right lol .But i figure the more i can do to protect myself the better but in the end it probally won't matter

[Aviatrix]

First of all I hope everything turns out ok and that she believes it is you and not someone that you were cheating with, and then hope it is acceptable. The biggest issue will likely be that it has been hidden for so long!

On a lighter note, it reminds me of a similar situation with an ex girlfriend of mine. We had only been dating for a couple of months but I hadn't told her about my girly self yet. Well after doing some laundry I had my clothes in a basket in my car and had a pair of panties hanging on the side to dry. I forgot about my clothes being there and went to pick her up and after a while she noticed and asked "Who's panties are those?" It caught me off guard as at that time I wasn't ready to let her in on the secret but after fumbling I said "Would you believe they are mine??" Surprisingly she said yeah, I figured that. She then let me knew that she already knew. Turns out a few months before when I had to go on an extended trip, she was looking though my pictures to save some of me while I was gone. She game across my "Girlypics" folders and said at first she thought it was my porn collection and was curious to see what kind of porn I'm looking at only to discover that my girly pics were me dressed up. Surprisingly it didn't bother her and she let me come out on my own terms and then fully supported me. Though the relationship didn't last, we did remain friends and before that I never used a girly name, but she helped to come up with Charlene and it stuck!

I hope for the best in your situation, I know it must be nerve racking!!

-Charlene

[Genifer Teal]

Phones often have a reset built into them which erases everything - maybe not external memory. I bought several phones off ebay to find family pohotos and full phone lists on there. You'd be surprised how few people check for that.

[MissTee]

I simply never take pictures. The image of me dressed in my mind is far, far better than an actual picture. (Yes, I've tried.) My imagination has me presenting younger, thinner, and hotter. I'll go with that and live the illusion!

[jjjjohanne]

My phone does not know I am a CD. I think that is a very good policy.

[JayeLefaye]

My wife is a therapist in private practice. The majority of her clients who come in for "couples counseling" are there because of something that someone found on an electronic device. Sad, but true.

Jaye

[~Joanne~]

Sometimes I wonder if it's really accidental.

Sometimes it does make you wonder doesn't it? I don't think it's purposely done but I don't think enough precautions are taken. Like JJJJohanne says: My phone does not know I am a CD. I think that is a very good policy. and I agree.

With all the sharing, collecting, and selling of your data, I just don't see the logic, if your closeted, of posting anything to any social network or taking pictures with your phone that is connected to same or clouds or the like. What ever happened to good old fashion CAMERA'S. They still make them, I know, I have one. Even a camcorder.

I hope all turns out well in Jordan's case but let this be another of many lessons to all the closeted girls here, You need to take better precautions if you plan on staying closeted and stop being careless. These phones do alot more than you think they do. You can be careful as you like but SOMEONE can always get your information, pictures, and even turn on your video if they really wanted to. Assuming they haven't already.

[donnalee]

the future is already here... you're too late... you are already a part of it all and can't escape! they've got a file on you!

I don't worry; they've had me on file for decades and it just doesn't matter; I think they've decided that whatever they want, it ain't me!

[Alice_2014_B]

Ouch Ouch Ouch

[vickim]

I have rules that I abide by to cut down on this. NO photos on my phone. No photos on any device which accesses my male Facebook. Vicki's facebook (Vicki Dunne, btw, I have no friends, come friend me <g>) is not accessed on any device which accesses my facebook, etc. Compartmentalization to increase the risk of this happening. I can't say it is for sure, but it minimizes risk. No Vicki gmail access on any device which anyone else has access to. Computers have a weird way of saving passwords and account names grrr...... Lastly, I have a shredder app on my phone to overwrite unallocated space and run it at times

I know there are plenty who would say that this is too much work and you should just "come out." The unfortunate truth is that for many of us "coming out" is not an option... and so we play the dangerous game. Maybe the danger is part of the allure?

Best of luck and I hope it all works out for you

[VAWyman]

There's an app for that
On my iPad I have a calculator that is just that, and a very good one at that. But enter a code and it opens up to private pictures and videos. I haven't looked in android, the calculator is by Digital Mind. I know there are others, but this is the one I use. It does have its limitations, ie. It copies the pics, so you will have to dele the public pic. It may be visible to Dropbox, etc. so you still have to be careful.

I also agree with Vickim, compartmentalizations is the key.

[Lily Catherine]

As long as I post any part of my narrative and experiences, that's one more inch of me being out of the closet. I've accepted that as inevitable.

On my iPad I have a calculator that is just that, and a very good one at that. But enter a code and it opens up to private pictures and videos.

I use something similar; a pity it keeps the phone unlocked thereby allowing for unintentional exposure and requiring a greater degree of secrecy and carefulness.