This morning I awoke to terrible news that a very good friend (platonic) had passed, to give you some background he was an openly gay man with a partner who lived together close here. In this community which is pretty tight we do have many mutual friends who I would say mostly only know me as Stephanie, some know me as both. I met him at a restaurant in which he was working at the time and hit it off, he made it a point to invite me to dances or dinners and even his annual chili cook offs which were at their home. Upon my arrival he would always spend time with me and comment on my clothes or make up and we would talk about fashion, cooking and what was going on...
I certainly wouldn't want to offend anyone or cause some kind of "unwanted show" out of respect for anyone that could possibly be offended, but my feeling is that his family was very supportive of his life style. My initial plan was just to go in a mens suit and re introduce myself, but everyone there probably knows me as Stephanie, My social life has probably been more feminine than male as years went by, I do most of my errands etc, and socializing as a woman.
I know this funeral isnt all about me and what I am going to wear, a part of me wants to present myself there as how he knew me, but out of respect for others, or maybe even young kids, that may not know me as well would my wearing a dress for this occasion be inappropriate? I also know that I will probably cry and run my make-up lol
Any help , thoughts or input would help thank you !