I was wondering if anyone's resolutions included being upfront and honest, especially and maybe even only to your SO. Many reasons to do that. Take the pressure off yourself so you don't have to worry when/if she is coming home. Not scaring her to death that you are a) Gay b) TS c) having an affair when you do get caught.
So many times we see marriages crash here because someone who thought they had the angles and the answers messed up. there are some who have gotten away with it for a long time (or have they? Wives tend to know things you don't think they know). But It is rare to see a thread where someone says "My wife caught me....and she said "cool"". Far more that said "I told my wife and we will work it out" The surprise ones almost always have some sort of "we aren't speaking anymore" or "she is considering leaving"
We know you it is unlikely you will or can give up dressing, that is a resolution made to fail. But you could resolve to be honest.