I met a CD online (he only underdresses and wears slips/nightgowns, etc. to bed). We didn’t meet on a dating site – it wasn’t anything like that at all. We’ve grown very close recently, but have not met yet. I LOVE that he wears women’s panties – I actually think it’s quite sexy. We live in two different states. I’m single and he’s married (over 40 years (yikes!)). He also has three adult children. He’s in what I think is probably a “don’t ask, don’t tell” marriage. He has his own bedroom that he sleeps in and that’s where he keeps all of his items. He thinks there’s always a reason why someone comes into your life and we both aren’t sure yet what that reason could be… too soon to know for sure. I find myself falling quickly and I think he is quite smitten. He’s about 20 years my senior. He’s very generous and bought me a few presents and I’ve bought him some of his favorite panties in return. I told him he doesn’t need to buy me anything as I would stay his friend even if I received nothing from him (truly).
I feel very guilty about the fact that he’s married and I’m speaking with him. I know that it must be lonely to be in a DADT marriage and in a separate bedroom. I feel like my acceptance of him and really enjoying this side of him is so alluring to him.
My question – if you are in a DADT marriage and in your own bedroom and you fell in love with another women who accepted and enjoyed you the way you are, what would you do? This is assuming that you loved both women – which I believe is possible (to love two people).
I don’t know where this thing he and I have is going to go, but something tells me he’s craved acceptance from a woman for a VERY long time. I’m totally okay with him and the underdressing (am more than okay with it). On nearly every level in his life, he is a happy person and is very successful with great relationships with all of his family). The only issue would be the DADT part of his relationship/sleeping in separate bedrooms.
What’s a GG to do??? Like I said, this may not even go anywhere. He has a lot invested in his marriage. I don’t know if me being 20 years younger and loving the CD part of him might have him do something that he really would have never done.
Any thoughts??