Since I have been coming to and enjoying the comments on this forum, I was immediately struck by the pervasive use of 3rd person references to the authors’ feminine alter egos when being self-referential. I find it reminiscent of the old US Senator Bob Dole’s continual references in his speeches to himself as “Bob Dole” (which was the butt of many jokes when he ran for US President) rather than using a first person singular pronoun (me or I ). I recently read another CD blogger who expressed deep frustration and disappointment with her siblings. She had come out to them, but they had not seen her while she was dressed en femme. She had invited them over to her house just before Christmas for a glass of wine so they could “meet Hannah” (her words - I love her blog: http://hannahgotta.wordpress.com/), and she was heartbroken that no one showed up.
I wanted to write her (but didn’t) to suggest that using the notion of “meeting Hannah” to people not comfortable with this world in which we live might seem to be off-putting. After all, they were not actually invited to meet Hannah, they were invited to finally see their sibling in her true, expressed form. The implication of “meeting” some other person could be interpreted as a charade, a donned costume, a character played as a lark (if we step into the shoes of people hearing this idea, I think this response is a genuine possibility). Of course it wasn’t any of that, but the way the invitation was conveyed might have been seen as having a level of artificiality to it. Maybe.
When I joined here, I had to pick a screen name. I had never had one before, and had never thought of myself that way. I was always just me when I dressed (I suppose there are implications to that fact for me, but that’s for another thread). Now I’ve never gone out en femme (other than underdressed, but I am even less like to pass than a Yugo! …bad joke), so I’ve never needed a persona/alternate identity. I understand how it fits a genuine need for others here, and there’s no criticism or judgment in this at all. At times, however, I still find it being presented as more of a mask rather than an extension of self. That may be more related to the author’s use of written language, but it often seems to me to be a hard split of identities. I am just me, in drab or drag. And I definitely acknowledge I am also a rookie here, so perhaps I know nothing about this. (Please flame kindly!)
I’m just curious about what the girls here think about the concept of not saying me or I and instead using a third-party femme name when in fact they are being self-referential. Is this identity split indicative of some emotional walls dividing up a personality, or is it just a meaningless manner of speaking?
crossdressing...theirs an app for that 
Originally Posted by Karen62
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