This past weekend, I had perhaps the most "golden" opportunity of my life to explore crossdressing, with my wife and family out of town for four days. I had the entire house to myself, for several days in a row, with no real accountability. I had even "prepped" for this weekend, pricing possible clothing purchases, thinking about this opportunity ... My wife actually was expecting me to shave my legs this weekend. This weekend was probably "fog machine" for the pink fog that engulfed me for the weeks leading up to it.
Exhausted, confused, and frustrated, I came here about 10 days ago, seeking some much needed support and advice, and I got just that. Most here advised me to relax, slow down, regain some composure, get my priorities and thinking straight, etc. It was good advice. After much thought, I decided that I should refrain from exploring CD any further, until I have the maturity and honesty to talk to my wife about it, that I should "lead with honesty" (note: this is NOT a commentary on anyone else ... I personally feel guilt-ridden, anxious, and down, not by CD but the regret of keeping this secret from my wife, which I hated).
So ... I passed on the opportunity. I filled my weekend with other stuff ... got caught up at work, got in some killer workouts (training for a triathlon in the summer), hung out with friends, knocked out a couple home projects. There were times at night, when I thought about sleeping in my wife's clothes, but I decided against it. It felt great being in control. It still feels awesome to be living more consciously and mindfully, so to speak, as it relates to this aspect of me.
I am not sure where I will end up with this ... It has been amazingly cathartic to just share my story with you, even anonymously, as I have been carrying this secret for 40 years and felt trapped and overwhelmed and alone. Thanks to this forum, I recognize that I am not alone, that I am in control, and that CD is not only "okay" and "normal," but this aspect of me (CD) is as valid and important as any other part of me.
Thanks again.