firstly no "tell or dont tell" debate, already had it.....
and i boosted this: its from a GG perspective....i thought it deserved better attention....
"If nothing else, I say at least take the time to think of as many questions as possible, ask for help in coming up with them and leave your SO a video in your stash (or a letter, video seems better to me) and answer all of the questions she may have if she finds it, especially if she finds it because she has lost you."
so if the courage of a reveal is insurmountable (ive been there) the very least thing you could do would be some how archive the thoughts and feelings that you share here.....some of you share them in these debate threads, why not share them with the one you love....
a letter, a recording, or a video, in drab from you....dont think its too much for a GG to ask....