I too have bulletin board experience dating back to Usenet. The Alt. hierarchy was simply awful but there wasn't anywhere else...
Fast forward to a couple years ago. I was connecting the dots in my life and then the answer became visible. I was a crossdresser, or something like it anyhow. I went to a couple of search engines and began researching. As others have said, there are quite a few raunchy sites out there. I was getting confused. I don't have the same desires as so many others seem to have. I found a site for CD wives and became really confused. If I wasn't one of the crossdressers I'd read about, then what was I?
Eventually I found this site. It is devoid of the smarmy stuff, there are no flame wars, no trolls, no pop-ups, nothing prurient, just civil discussion among like minded persons.
That's EXACTLY what I was looking for. I lurked for a month or so and signed up.
A VERY BIG part of what makes this forum so good are the moderators. Let's give them a hand.
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I have had run-ins with moderators a few times, but their often unrecognized work is what makes this place so special.
Best wishes
MsVal