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    Cross dresser I.D. signal to other CD's

    I recently read the forum item regarding "what to do if you run into another person you think is also a cross dresser in public". It would be nice if we could come up with some sort of signal, for example; "place your two hands together almost like praying." In response, the other party would also do the same, therefore breaking the ice to some interesting conversation. There are many of us out there that would like to have some sort of a passive signal to identify our brave sisters out in public without being too invasive.

    If anyone has other suggestions, please give some input to something that could be an international signal to all our sisters, which venture out in the world

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    The problem with a signal is that they don't stay "secret" for long, especially if the media gets ahold of it. Then you may end up being deceived by someone who doesn't have your best interests at heart.
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    Think you need some work on that signal Marcie...

    I'm guessing you'll be making friends with every Hindu, buddhist and a fair few priests of other faiths before you bump into another CDer...

    Perhaps it's best just to go to planned social events where everyone is expecting to socialise and... well... if it's a CD event you're in with a good chance to spot one or two. I just can't believe that most of us who do the 'in public' thing are necessarily interested in being accosted by other CDers in public places - if they're out aren't they out for a reason? As in: not to meet anyone? I'll leave the shoppers here to answer that one...

    Perhaps I'm just being too British... but not all CDers are as 'civilised' as the folk on this forum... some of the offers I've had on other sites would make your dangly earrings stand on end...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Katey888 View Post
    not all CDers are as 'civilised' as the folk on this forum... some of the offers I've had on other sites would make your dangly earrings stand on end...
    Katey x
    go on ... we need to know about the "seedy" side and dangers too

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    There used to be a group called Pinky Pals. But it was more for transwomen.

    This could be something cool maybe? I checked the Yahoo group but no new messages since Dec 2013 so that group is effectively dead.

    And Kate makes a great point, sadly..

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    How about just walking up to the person whom you suspect is "one of us," slapping her on the back and asking jovially, "If you show me yours I'll show you mine?"

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    I can’t speak for anyone else, but if you see me out and about just say hi. I go out a lot, pretty comfortable being out in public. If I see you don’t worry I will respect your privacy. It's not likely anyway Marcie because I'm not planning a trip to Canada anytime soon.

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    If you acknowledge a TS person, you are telling them they failed to disappear into the GG mainstream. Don't do it.

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    We used to have super secret decoder rings but some goofball messed up the code and when we tried to decode we set off the Tranny alarm.

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    I say just wear a button that says I'm a CD and proud of it.
    No really just be polite and engage if you see someone that's all I want

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    im thinking some sort of gang sign would go down best haha!
    I cant stand to fly, I'm not that naive. I'm just out to find the better part of me. I'm more than a bird, I'm more than a plane, I'm more than some pretty face beside a train. Its not easy to be me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by I Am Paula View Post
    If you acknowledge a TS person, you are telling them they failed to disappear into the GG mainstream. Don't do it.

    What Paula said - I made this mistake 16 years ago. It was one of the most awkward moments of my life. Even though it may be the 800 lb gorilla in the room, just let it stay there until she brings it out.

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    What about a secret hand shake? Maybe tuck in the baby finger? No one but the shake-ees would notice!?
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    I agree with paula.

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    Aha! Another smartphone app idea.

    An app that would alert users if someone "interesting" was nearby and optionally open a communications channel (text, voice, etc)

    Using GPS, Near Field Communication, and a database of desirable and unwanted characteristics, people could meet others with similar interests. A 'stealth' mode would allow users to find others without being discovered themselves.

    You're welcome.

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    Call it 'dressr' and everyone shows up as little pink fog clouds on the map.

    Nothing good could come of it.
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    it's too dangerous - in the wrong hands - haters - it would become a targeting weapon

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    How about pins with transgender flag or pink and blue yin and yang.
    Again no way to stop the info from getting to those that may have
    ill intentions.

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    A perfect passive signal would be the fact that both of you probably look like a guy in women's clothes Just look for the ones in nude hose and size 12 patent pumps.

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    How about walking over to them, and striking up a friendly conversation, not about being trans? If one or both of you still sound like men when you speak, well, there's your sign. This isn't foolproof - some of us do put effort into developing a feminine voice. But unless you are just a natural at this, it is an immense amount of work to develop a passable voice, and it's even more difficult if you only use it part time.

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    I thank everyone for their responses and realize you are all right. I could be very dangerous if a simple communication signal was in the wrong hands. I really hadn't thought things through when I posted this thread. Lets just forget this suggestion

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    Marcie,

    It's always better to talk things through in a safe place amongst friends.. much better than just going out and trying it for real.. and the discussion here helps educate and inform a lot of people that read it...

    Quote Originally Posted by charlenesomeone View Post
    How about pins with transgender flag or pink and blue yin and yang.
    I really like this idea - particularly the cd.com logo - who would know, other than us? And if someone asked who obviously didn't know, you'd just say it's a logo for a support forum... most folk wouldn't go further... this could be our first bit of merchandising... hmmmm...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sarah-RT View Post
    im thinking some sort of gang sign would go down best haha!

    Good in theory except if you get the gang signal wrong, or a member of the actual gang is around and is like "dat fool jus disrespected our set, time to break yo self!" Of course the odds of this happening in local payless, dress barn, or goodwill is probably Negligible. I say go with devil horn hand sign popular at metal concerts. THe person could be a metal fan, or a Cross dresser. Just be prepared to have answers for any possibility. Deuce!!!
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    Inevitably, that unfortunately mustachioed woman is going to get tired of all those funny women with broad shoulders and big feet giving her gang signs. That's when the pistol comes out of her purse. Most of us have seen that knowing look and accepting smile from GG's. Maybe the same courtesy applies.
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    Why not do the MJ crotch grab, then everyone will be sure to say: "Look at those pervert(s) out in public!". Seriously, what about some polite conversation, something along the lines of:

    "You look nice."

    If they respond with a smile and a (like me):

    "Why thank you!"

    And seeing as voice training isn't on my to-do list you'll know two things: I'm a CD and I'm willing to have a chat (otherwise I'd have made a break for it). On the rare occasions I've been out (too tall to blend let alone pass unless I'm sitting down), I did not mind people engaging me if they were polite, friendly and treated me like a decent human being. It's actually nice if someone actually makes the effort, as opposed to everyone ignoring you after their second glance. Being out on my own the last time (no-one but my wife to go with) I actually got lonely!

    But as with everything in life reactions will vary. Some people, who are really serious about passing, may take offence so better make a hasty retreat then.

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