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Well, I don't even think about men, much less fantasize about them.
Hi Rah,
As Katie said . . . nothing wrong with being intellectually curious and throwing it out as a post . . . that is what this site is for . . . we are an eclectic bunch to say the least. Sorry that some have taken this to be an affront to their "straightness" and have responded oddly to say the least.
My wife and I will often discuss what makes a good looking man or a good looking woman . . . it doesn't impinge on our sexual preference . . . just good plain "what if" fun. I suppose if I was going to "what if" he (the man in question) would have to be kind, considerate and into things that I enjoy doing as much as I would be in to what he is doing . . . good looking would be a boon but not necessary. However these are all things I would look for in a woman as well.
So . . . there it is and guess what folks . . . still straight
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Isha
A hedge fund manager, doctor, lawyer, athlete, etc. who makes minimum $750,000 per year after taxes. A guy who works all of the time and is rarely at home, travels a lot, who has no interest in sex with me because he is having affairs with his mistresses, or "john", escorts etc. While I'm at home pampering myself, spending his money on me(mainly on plastic surgeries, liposuction), and also having an affair with my mistress. He will not divorce me, because he does not want to pay my alimony so I can live the spoiled life I have become used to. Sounds like the plot of a lifetime movie!
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I use to deny being attracted to men and proclaim my hetro sexual status, only slept with women. Then my femininity wanted more and who I truly was started to emerge. I started sleeping with guys and it was so much more emotionally fulfilling , something I never experienced with women
I appreciate women and they make great friends but I only am interested in dating men now. Just be true to who you are it may not be who you think you are suppose to be.
My wife and I had a good laugh about this question. No we were not laughing at the OP's question, rather at ourselves. She said she has always been attracted to tall men with dark features and a rather rugged appearance and personality. Of course she married a medium height, slightly overweight bald man with feminine feelings who likes to crossdress in women's clothes. I have always been attracted to tall, voluptuous, red headed women. Of course I married a very petite small chested blond. She is 5' and weighs 103 lbs. Go figure. I was really attracted to her personality and her smile. She says that she went out with me the first time because she saw my eyes come alive when ever I looked at her and I opened doors for her like a gentleman. We are still very much in love after 20 years.
So when she pressed me about what kind of man I would be attracted to I told her it would not matter. If I ever was attracted to a man the fantasy and the reality probably would not match.
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Rah, Being like yourself I think we both think alike on the subject.
Only those of us who are gay or in transition would give an unbiassed answer.
Mine can only be fantasy.
In reality my perfect mate would be a tall lithsome blonde, all female and probably I would die of a heart attack in bed.
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and beauty will follow.
Really!!!!! what century are you living in then?Originally Posted by seanmuscle
Sandra
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I always used to rib you about your legs can't anymore. R.I.P Sexy Legs
R.I.P Rianna
Well I somewhat understand the sentiment, a strong man making us feel more demure, feminine and it seemed to me that was expressing more of a sexual interest than living with a man. I fall into the same category as some here, really on the hetero side of bi. I can fantasize about a man but I don't walk down the street and look at men. But being with a man dressed, really touched a feminine nerve and my preference is for the strong, gentle daddy types.
Curious if you straight girls are attracted to other cd's? These days that attraction is as strong as any for me.
Trisha
I understand that some cders would like that type of man but Sean was implying that this is the type that GGs want, and that maybe right with some but not all GGs want that, he shouldn't lump all GGs together.
Sandra
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I always used to rib you about your legs can't anymore. R.I.P Sexy Legs
R.I.P Rianna
Maybe that is what he would like
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I always imagined I'd look good next to a guy who's at least 5 years older and 4 inches taller than me (so I look more petite), kind of hipsterish with like dark hair and a beard, long eyelashes, check shirts, skinny with tight jeans, one or two piercings, some tattoos etc. He'd be an artist or something (not a musician), and be really talented and really into it, even if he's not very commercially successful with it. He'd be somewhere between introvert and extrovert, neither dominant not submissive, intelligent but not snobbish, someone you meet and just think "he's really nice". oh and he'd be irish. definitely.
I think I got carried away there. I'm not even into guys usually.
No its true. Most girls whether they are cd or gg like this type of macho man. Its innate biology. It makes them feel petite, submissive, protected and most of all feminine. I have seen it in real life through many years of dating too.
my ideal guy would be a girl like shania twain {giggle}
I have my fantasy boyfriend....in real life.....and he dresses like a girl too. xoxo....I zip up his dress, and he/she takes off my boots and gives me a foot massage, we go shopping, eat pizza, share makeup tips, fashion advise, she is the ultimate wing girl......xoxo
Oh Im HELLA GAY!! but still like guys to. I even got to date one for a bit because Stacy was way cool about it,
But ya my guy??? Johnny Depp the longhairish scruffy face hat n glasses wearing one lol. you know what i mean!
Anyways taller like 6ft is awesome long hair is cool too tats but not like everywhere just some.
you know that rocker bad boy guy but deff not a self centered douchebag. Someone like Marys guy below
Sorry but I dont think i could ever be with a guy my height or shorter that just be weird I mean im bearly 5'6 Stacy is freakin taller then me shes a girl how can i date a guy shorter then me???? LOL!
MY friend is like 6ft 5 or maybe more! he like ducks in doors lol its great even Stacy is petite next to him LOL!
IDK but taller guys just so do it for me and Stacy LMAO!! no its really funny cause she married me!
But she says it doesnt matter Im shorter because she married a girl not a guy. shes right thou
OK lol for someone not really into guys you dream up a pretty good one
Forget asking what caveman decade your from.......... more like what planet are you from?!?
Ya Let me guess.... I bet your also one of them machoman who think 50 shades was accurate to?
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I really should have topped off my coffee before getting comfy.
Umm TSs are girls but cders are not so get your facts right please...still don't agree with you, but I'm not gonna win whatever I say, so I'll let you go live in your world where the GG is the weak, defensive little woman who just can't cope unless she has such a man in her life...yeah maybe in the 1950's
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I always used to rib you about your legs can't anymore. R.I.P Sexy Legs
R.I.P Rianna
I wish I had that situation.
I find I'm attracted to guys that take care of themselves and dress nicely.That goes for women too but the attraction is not as strong.
I have a small circle of guy friends I hang out with quite a bit and one of them is really handsome and so much fun to hang out with but he isn't interested in guys.
His GF is really sweet so I'm happy for him.
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To Trishwa, the difference I think, between CDers and GGs when it comes to a preference for men, is that GG's don't need men to "make us feel more demure, feminine" as you say. We already KNOW that we are women and therefore feminine compared to the man we're with.
Different women have different preferences (not just tall, dark, and strong) based on all sorts of factors including their personalities, background, personal sense of aesthetics, etc. I prefer the intensely intellectual type, doesn't matter what color hair or eyes, or how much muscle he has. A killer smile doesn't hurt, but then this is a feature that all types of people possess.
I totally get Sandra's response to SeanMuscle. I would much rather be an equal partner than be dominated by someone. I want a voice in the relationship. I do not want to live like women did during the 1950s.
Do I want to be wanted in bed? Certainly, I think that everyone does. AND, both men and women are fully capable of wanting their partners sexually and showing it. The idea some of you have perhaps, that only men are capable of wanting partners, is another idea from the '50s.
I also understand the purpose of this thread. I can see why it would be fun to imagine "what if". I also have graphic fantasies that I know real life experience could never imitate, simply because I have complete control over my fantasies … I can add what I want, omit what I want, add any characteristic I want … in short I can manipulate, stretch, compress, and invent something that does not exist, and I can even omit some of my own fundamental preferences in order to mesh with the fantasy. Real life and real people (and my own reactions in real life) don't work that way. lol
Reine
@Reine. Actually a lot of women say they want a bigger, taller, stronger, protective guy because it makes them feel petite and feminine. They avoid small effeminate men because it makes them feel masculine and like they are the man in the relationship.
Reine and Sandra you dont understand. Women want a man who knows how to lead in the relationship. It does not mean he is controlling or abusive. And women like to be dominated in the bedroom because the strength, power and masculinity of a man turns them on.
There are always exceptions but most women want the masculine alpha male type guy.
And first prize for the most complete and unsubstantiated load of bulls*** goes to 'seanmuscle'. I'd love to see the research into said theory and the peer reviews.
Rebecca
I'm not so sure about all that other stuff - some of the things you talk about are social, and definitely do not apply to all women. In the study below though, 50% of women surveyed did prefer a taller man. However, while 50% is a lot, it's still not most.
I would be willing to bet that 50% of the cis women who are supportive on this forum do not prefer that type of partner.
http://www.hngn.com/articles/24135/2...taller-men.htm
Disclaimer: Since the study above was done at UNT and Rice, both in Texas, it's possible that the results may not really be totally applicable to the rest of the civilized world.(Just kidding, they used data from all over the place...)
edit: There are lots of implicit little things in your post seanmuscle that one could nitpick about. For example, there is a decent percentage of women who don't want a man at all! Presumably you are talking about heteronormative, cisnormative women - but you never really talk about that, you just kind of sweep them all into "exceptions" i.e. "other". That kind of sucks! Their experiences are just as valid, even if they aren't the numerically largest group.
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He would have to be a passable CD or transgender. Smooth, feminine features, and pretty face and hair doo. Just enough make-up to highlight the natural beauty. Sexy legs, butt, and smooth slender arms. Soft complexion.
I don't think what seanmuscle says is a total load of BS as much as a gross exaggeration. A while back I spent some time looking at profiles on fetlife. The vast majority of women identified as submissives or listed submissive type fetishes. The women that identified as Dommes were mostly pros in it for the $. What I thought was interesting was the number of women that identified as sexually submissive and feminist. But when I thought about it, I saw no contradiction. The men were less likely to identify as dominant than women were to identify as submissive. I know that fetlife is not representative of the general population but you can still learn a lot by looking at the extremes of the bell curve. There's a reason that "50 shades" was popular among women and there's a reason there isn't a femdom equivalent as popular among men. I'm definitely NOT interested in sexually submissive women. Been there, done that. No more.
The only boyfriend I ever had was a nameless, faceless abstraction with a penis. That's about as close as I want to get to the real thing.
I am not straight but I really don't fantasize about a boyfriend, because I have a very real one
I'd say Ava Gardner's quote about Frank Sinatra would cover it:
She stated the singer was "only 110 pounds, but 10 pounds of it is c---!"
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