Does increased frequency of dressing end the erotic aspect?
I dress very well, but less often than once a month. It has always been sexually arousing.
May it ever be so.
I'm sure it is different for many, but my question is that does increased frequency of dressing ruin the frequency and intensity of that sexual arousal?
And if so, can you return from the precipice back into the garden of horny bliss by tapering off on the dressing frequency?
Last edited by ophelia; 03-10-2015 at 07:57 AM.
My thoughts, like drugs, once it becomes boring I would expect you need to find a "harder" (aka more erotic) way to dress.
I doubt GG's get aroused wearing skirts, pantyhose etc, and I don't either (okay I did with swim suits and lycra outfits when I was a teen).
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I cannot help but get somewhat turned on when I'm dressed up, especially since I got a LBD.
However, for me it is like an extended mental arousal. I mean, I do not get all turned on looking in the mirror or at my pictures. I still like what I see in the mirror and my pictures, but that’s it.
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For me it's always been about the sexual arousal as well. I sometimes go through periods where I don't dress as much, or at all, but I have always found my way back. And when I do it is as exciting as ever.
Back in the day, I think darn near anything animate or inanimate turned me on. As for dressing, for me the desire does not wane post sex. At that point it's a comforting thing to do rather than an erotic thing to do.
Hi Ophelia, at present I only get to dress fully once a month, but I do underdress, (tights - pantyhose to you Colonials- and panties) daily. So in answer to your question for me yes it does, mind you it may also have something to do with age and medical conditions who can tell. Whilst I am dressed I feel, a different form of arousal, no longer needing to 'do the deed' and then scurry off and change back into bob mode with that guilty feeling, but sort of inner warmth and calming. Hope this has made some sense!
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I think for alot of girls it is sexually arousing, especially those who only dress only once in a while......when you dress regularly or often however it def tones the erotic aspect down...and dressing just seems normal.....once in a while a new article of clothing may make me feel good,...but its not sexual at all. And as far as that garden of horny bliss??? If other people are in that garden with me...i never left it......if you mean dressing then self pleasuring yourself....that ship sailed years ago......but i can see how people can use dressing for that type of thing...i was like that too for a few years.....
It seems to me that since I've been getting out, I don't get so aroused anymore! When out I've got people to flirt with and things to do. I'm not just sitting at home concentrating on how erotic my legs look and feel in stockings!
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Although I am new to this forum, I have been dressing for many years and only vaguely recall any arousal from just dressing alone. I can admit to arousal while dressed with my SO in attendance but i put that down to her being there! when i dress at home now, it just feels like getting dressed to suit the day/occasion just as if i am dressing to go out in my male role. So, My conclusion is probably, yes, if you dress more often or for longer periods, then it becomes the norm and you have to work harder to get those feelings back. BUT. that's just my own opinion. Remember that everyone is different and others may dress for entirely different reasons to you and would therefore have a different view or outcome in this matter.
Colleen
I don't get to dress that often. But generally when I do get to dress, it is often for longer periods of time. Right now I have the ability to dress at night and underdress all day. Next week when I am back home with spouse, it will be not at all. So even though now, I have a lot of time to dress, I can wear clothing without becoming aroused but inevitably, I know that something will come out of the experience.
I guess that would really depend on the individual and their motivation to dress to begin with.
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I've never gotten a sexual thrill from dressing in female clothing. But I would suppose that it would be like anything else that someone would do that was exciting; you do it enough, and the excitement is gone, and you have to look for new adventures to get the same adrenaline/sexual rush.
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There's an addendum at post # 82 on that thread, too. It's about a ten minute read.
Why don't we understand our desire to dress, behave and feel like a girl? Because from childhood, boys are told that the worst possible thing we can be, is a sissy. This feeling is so ingrained into our psyche, that we will suppress any thoughts that connect us to being or wanting to be feminine, even to the point of creating separate personalities to assign those female feelings into.
Hi Ophelia,
Being sexually aroused was what started it off. But it wasn't that which maintained my cross-gender identity.
I haven't tried tapering my dressing down, but I suspect I'll be okay even if I did because I do not need to the dress to convince myself of my identity (not anymore).
Having said that, I wouldn't want to do so as well because I feel most comfortable being who I am which includes dressing up in a way that reflects who I am.
I'd suggest exploring this issue yourself and see where it leads you.
I'm definitely not aroused by it anymore, but felt it was rather boring or normal, which is exactly what I like.
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It was all about sexual arousal at first. But now that I'm older and dress much more often it's hardly about that anymore. So I can answer yes to your question. Ok there is still 'something growing' under my skirt or dress every now and then, but dressing these days is mainly to satisfy my feminine side.
U ask a good question, Ophelia. I'm not sure, but there may be a correlation.
I'm considered myself a closet, fetish dresser because sex is involved in my dressing. I'm 70 and have been dressing for 17 years. It's a rare occasion when I'm dressing in private at home and don't get turned on.
However, when I dress to go out and meet friends? I find dressing stimulating but not arousing. I can dress for an entire week at a CD convention and not get turned on the entire time.
I don't think for me it's how often I dress that gets me going. It's how at ease I am at the time. I'm never relaxed when dressing to go out or when I am out. But, I always feel so erotic and sexy when dressing in private at home!
Last edited by docrobbysherry; 03-10-2015 at 12:07 PM.
U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
I think the sexual arousal is an early thing and as the years roll by, there is a different outlook on dressing, sexual arousal becomes less of an issue.
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I have been dressing as long as I can remember. When I hit puberty it was sexually exciting but what wasn't?
Now it is just a feeling of completeness or being who I am supposed to be. I do get enjoyment from wearing a new outfit, or getting the make up just right etc.
I hit periods of not dressing for one or two months and then hit periods of dressing eight days a month.
I believe a lot of it is what the actual motivation of the dressing is.
If I am a good example, more frequent dressing did not diminish the chance of arousal in my young-man years. However, privacy was always necessary, both for dressing and the other. Now in my mature years, I think there is an "extinction effect". You get used to the clothes--it becomes old hat. Now, I only get a warm glow and an erotic feeling when I am dressed and looking pretty.
I can dress and be passable any time--but that is because so many women in my town--out and about wear jeans, boots and heavy coats with no makeup. I don't see the point in dressing in a dull daily-life manner. I like to dress like an attractive pretty woman. I like to dress as a woman that would attract my attention. Dress, heels, pretty hair and classic makeup. Then I am in heaven.
Last edited by JenniferR771; 03-10-2015 at 01:58 PM.
It used to be sexually arousing for me as well. Now, it is just the woman in me, and I guess after 20 years or more of dressing on and off, I miss Bree when I can't dress up and look pretty. I guess that she is in me all the time but really doesn't come out until I am dressed and finish up with my favorit lipstick and gloss. Then I feel like the real me.
Bree
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In my pre-teen and teen years it only took a pretty girl or even a glimpse of a pretty girl's slip to make my heart pound. The sexual connection was strong and instantaneous. Now I'm more relaxed but the connection with sexual feelings is still there.
My libido drives my dressing rather than the other way around. If I were to dress up right now it wouldn't do a thing for me.
Because we live in such an up tight society, the laws about public decency require me to dress. So, if I must dress I might as well look gorgeous while I am at it.
This would of course be an appropriate question for a fetish dresser or someone that might be characterized as that autogiros...thingy. For me dressing isn't about sexual fulfillment and frequency does not diminish the satisfaction of being myself.
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For me there is no sexual aspect to dressing, so frequency doesn't matter in that regard.
For me, I'm not so much aroused by the dressing itself, but the idea that I'm free to fully be myself. It took me a long time to figure that out though, so what you're initial connecting as arousal due to dressing may not be that at all.
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