I found it disturbing and eye opening when I discovered the 50 lbs of extra weight in the mirror. Of course I knew I had it. It just didn't matter till I saw a chubby butt under my skirt. It actually made me rethink my diet. We men have it so easy, lol. An ounce of personality and we are good practically regardless of how we look.
Anyone else felt like this?
yes, i'm just over halfway down on my 48 pounds target loss.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dJFyz73MRcg
I used to believe this, now I'm in the company of many tiggers. A tigger does not wonder why she is a tigger, she just is a tigger.
thanks to krististeph: tigger = TG'er .. T-I-GG-er
I had major surgery on my shoulder last year and couldn't do anything but sit around and eat for a few months while I was I was healing. I gained 25 lbs on top of the 15 that I was already overweight. My blood pressure is out of control. I have to hold my breath to tie my shoes but for some reason I'm having trouble getting motivated to lose the blubber. Dieting makes me hungry.
If Pamela and I could swap diets then we would both be a lot better off! I can eat until I am full to bursting and only take in 1200 - 1300 calories a day, while Pamela would make a beeline for all the high calorie, high fat foods that he can find. I actually ended up losing weight long term by not realising that I was under eating (and I am so small that I really don't have any to lose).
I think what I am trying to say is that dieting does not have to equate to hungry at all. The other motivations are another story... I can talk more about this off forum if you wish.
Talk more about other motivations for dieting or how crossdressing makes you more aware of your physical condition?Originally Posted by Welshgirl
That's awesome btw Pamela!
Too bad about your shoulder Steve. Might just have to do it despite the lack of motivation. Lots of times it doesn't come till after we've made good choices. We resist change and cling to the familiar. Even if it's unhealthy.
Both of those things, plus the kind of food that I was eating that would fill me up while I was steadily losing weight!
I'm 6'3" and 170lbs - so I could never be convincing out - but I still think I look good
Jessie
No, society has a very harsh view of the overweight. I think the bar is just lower for men than women and because men's clothes tend to be straight and larger than needed, we can hide more, more easily. Did you know that among children, the MOST prejudiced, teased, bullied child is the fat kid. Not black, Jew, Asian, whatever. The fat kid.
Now, I am a big proponent of staying shape. Every single aspect of your life improves as you shed fat. Here's the trick: Set a goal. Weigh yourself EVERY DAY. Count every calorie into your body, every day. There are a million of apps for that. I like LoseIt!. Exercise, every day. 5 days a week, it has to be a good sweat with elevated heart rate. Starting is hard, doing it is easy.
Weight is an ongoing battle for me. It's important to be healthy. But we all come in different sizes, and we big girls can look and feel pretty, too
I couldn't agree more Julie, well saidWeight is an ongoing battle for me. It's important to be healthy. But we all come in different sizes, and we big girls can look and feel pretty, too
Good texts all. I receive plenty of flack on dating sites for not wanting to date overweight women. Here's the skinny on that, I am not interested in what I call a FATTITUDE.
Meaning the oceans of careless choices and mountain of excuses some people about their weight and BMI.
The problem is not your taste buds and stomach. It's in your head.
Arriving at and maintaining a healthy body shape and weight is a long term endeavor.
It's not rocket surgery to eat less but better food and take 10,000 steps a day.
Well worth the effort in terms of extended quality of life for you significant others to share.
A million times easier to pass en femme as well.
As a GG, I can add that matching personal body weight and shape assessment up with reality can be a lifelong struggle. That said, whatever steps are taken towards better health, image acceptance, etc., I would most definitely second, third, quadruple, quintuple (??) the previous comments about lifestyle changes, not diets, being key.
Weight is such an issue for me. Hence you see no pics, well that is part of the reason. My job keeps my sitting on my behind most of the day and since my job is almost twice as long as the normal persons day getting to the gym is just about out. I also love to cook. Most of the meals I cook are not what you call calorie friendly. So I have started doing small things to help change my weight and lifestyle. Hopefully I can keep these changes up and add to it. So far it is working down 15 lbs.
Personally, I'm not so keen on a daily weigh. The best way is the 'my trousers/skirt are getting looser' method. Counting calories is also micromanaging what should be a natural process and can be a stumbling block for many. You should definitely find an activity that you like, if you hate it you'll quit after a few weeks. Make sure most of your dinner is veggies, eliminate sugary things (but allow yourself a weekly reward) and expect a trying transition period as your body adjusts. After a while, it will come naturally.
Julie, you look great as you are!
I should mention to only attempt weight loss if that is what you want and not what others expect.
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As Chris Powell would say, you don't have to be great to start, you just have to to start to be great.
Oh I remember the fat kids getting picked on, I was one of them. However as an adult I've batted wwaayy out if of my league because I get people laughing. So many people are afraid they'll say the wrong thing. Conversation, especially in person, is fluid and malleable.
The hurt shoulder should not keep u from walking. That was whin i lost my weight got bored setting around lost 40. Started walking took my 3 years but all u got to do is get off your ass and walk. After a will u might even start running. But us old woman need to be careful i did hurt my back med summer and had to stop. And as of now i am still hurting i have tryed averthing the dr has said to do. So to day i started to walk agen and got a little bet of run i also. I am going to be sore tomorrow. Trying to stabilize my core to help low back. And to lose 20 more. Got to get my waste down love cindy
Walking was pretty much all I could do but the pain killers made even that difficult. I'm not much of a believer in the exercise for weight loss theory. I've never seen any evidence for it. When I worked construction, there were plenty of fat guys who spent all day finishing concrete. They probably burned 7-8k kcals per day but ate/drank even more. During my bodybuilding years, I never had any problem putting on weight despite spending 2+ hours/day in the gym with minimum 30min cardio. I'm not against exercise, I just think it's WAAAAAAAY overrated for weight loss. You lose weight when you ingest less calories than you expend. It's as simple as that. Exercise, especially anaerobic exercise, will help preserve lean body mass while losing the fat through calorie restriction but it is ineffective by itself.
There are many physical situations where this is neither practical, nor desirable nor beneficial. Having dealt with a nasty tropical virus and years of fatigue, i can say that the best approach for me was to go for weights/strength first and to build aerobic capability slowly in second phase, exercising every 2-3 days, allowing recovery and consuming food-energy in the post-exercise window to transport the glucose into the muscles for the next time it is needed. The good sweat, even before the virus, with 10 years of swimming a fast mile a day, only increased appetite. I'm consistently losing a pound a week by living mainly on freshly-made juices and a light evening meal, and exercising an hour every 2-3 days. 27 pounds down in 5-6 months - its working slowly as desired.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dJFyz73MRcg
I used to believe this, now I'm in the company of many tiggers. A tigger does not wonder why she is a tigger, she just is a tigger.
thanks to krististeph: tigger = TG'er .. T-I-GG-er
Adriana & hazel are on spot!! It takes a lifestyle revolution to want to get to that elusive femme personna.
When I got serious about Sherry and losing weight, Jenn? One of the first things I did was quite going to the gym. I was ravenous after every work out and hard muscles aren't fem.
Excersize is great for staying in shape, as u mention. But, has little nothing to do with long term, substancial weight loss. And, 90+% of folks on extreme excersize programs eventually quit.
Want to SERIOUSLY lose weight? Do what I did. Gradually change your eating habits. Just take it slow. Eat a little less, eat a little heathier, knock off those death drinks!
Make little changes u can live with the rest of your life. And, your life will be both better and longer when u eat/drink healthier.
Diets r like excersize programs. Over the long run they won't work. Just take it slow, easy, and don't deprive yourself. You'll resent it, hate it, and go back to bad habits!
If u get to the point that you're losing a pound a week, u r going in the rite direction!
When u see how easy it is, changes will become even easier!
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U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
Stay in shape both as a male and female because health is so important. I like to look sexy and it takes work going to the gym and working out. My routine includes just sit ups push ups and cardio walking ( can't run due to knee issues) Each time I'm there I think to myself I need to get in that smaller dress size. It seems to work for me
I was kind of lucky as a fat kid growing up. I was fat, but also bigger than most of the other kids in general so no one really bothered me, aside from my aloof personality that no one bothered me in general i got alot with most people. One time in high school a hot shot wrestler tried picking on me in gym, i laid him out in the game we were playing that day and my teacher just laughed and the game went on, he knew that guy was a punk and didn't mind. It was legitimate playing the game and my mass was bigger so i won
-kat
"There's a she wolf in the closet, open up and set her free" - shakira
As much as we all like to webMD ourselves, no ones advice here is going to be as tailored to you and your specific situation as it would if you were to see a Dr.
I had been having trouble losing weight and saw a Dr. He told me I was depressed and gave me prozac. I decided that I did not like that idea, so i went to a naturopath, we discovered through an elimination diet that I am severely allergic to gluten and dairy. I would not have figured that out without the guided help of a natural doctor. I have lost about 15 pounds without really trying.
So even though there is lots of advice here that might help you out, but it also might not work for you. I tried and tried for a year without losing any weight and had a health issue that could not be helped with just diet and exercise.
~Greenie
Supportive wife to a wonderful man who just so happens to like to be fabulous some times.
All I heard was "no Wheat Thins". Only thing worse would be losing bacon.
