I have good news and bad news Taielyn. Let me give u the bad news first:
No one here can give u the proper advice. Because no one here knows what "stages" your SO will go thru next. Much less what he'll be like in 5 or 10 years.
Your problem(s) r not because he dresses. They're mainly that u r trying to make grown up decisions before either of u have fully matured. I warned my daughter NOT to get married at 24. Now, she's separated at 28 with 2 kids. Seems she found out her SO is a stick in the mud and she didn't realize how much fun partying was until they split up!
The good news is:
U r NOT separated with 2 kids at age 28 yet! Pull the plug on your seemingly rushed marriage. Give him the time to find out who he is and what he wants. And, u the time to figure out if you're really ready to saddle that horse!