You will read here in many different threads that when going out you have to "own it." I have written it many times as have a myriad of day walkers (TM RenneB).
As I was walking to my salon appointment today, I didn't have a care in the world. (At the parking meter a guy even tried to chat me up. I ignored him) I was't looking for others who may be looking at me, I was in my own little world as I would be in guy mode. I walked the three city blocks, traversing streets and lights and I never felt "dressed." Frankly, I didn't really think about anything until my hair blew in my face. I do not really go out much, but for some reason I got to thinking about why I was so relaxed. Maybe it was the hair that brought me to thinking. I quickly reached my conclusion and I think this is the answer to "owning it."
I have resolved within myself that I will not pass. People KNOW I'm a dude. I know this. I don't care. I don't know these people. How can I take offense from a person whose opinion I do not value? As a result, what is left to fear? "I don't care is easy to write but hard to do. I think I have reached "I don't care" because I know passing is a fantasy. There is no magic piece clothing or jewelry that will make it so.
So what say you Day Walkers (TM RenneB), is this is the answer?