When one goes under the knife for gender reassignment surgery you hear about dilation but may not hear the full story.
With me, I knew dilation was done three times a day but didn’t realize how much it could rule my life and that there is pain to work through.
In the beginning it is three times a day for 15 minutes then after three months two times a day followed by the anniversary one time a day.
At my post operation appointment with Doctor Bowers I was introduced to three sizes, small medium and large. They decided to start me off with the middle size dilation tool which reached the desired depth but felt a little uncomfortable so for the first week after surgery I used the smaller size. The following week I moved to the middle size which took about two weeks to get comfortable with then tried the larger size dilation tool which was extremely painful so I learned to revert back to the mid-size for five minutes then moved to the larger size for the remainder of the time.
Side note, I was going through lubrication in bulk quantities which lead me to purchasing store brands in four ounce containers that are one-third the price of the name brand.
After a month on working with two sizes I was finally able to use just the larger size but was still tight. In recent weeks it has become much easier for entry, time in place then exiting and I mention exiting because that was a one point not easy.
Going back to ruling life, think about it, for me I had to get up earlier in the morning before work, get ready, perform the actions and then clean up. Total time includes drinking coffee to wake up, preparing, perform the actions, and clean up that generally take 30 to 40 minutes. Personally I learned to adapt to this but know many people who wake up with just the right amount of time to prepare and leave for work.
Mid-day was fine for the first six weeks as I was out of work on medical leave. Back to work I get home at 3:30PM, relax then back at it, do dinner, relax then one more time at around 8PM.
I can make you feel bound to the tools and the process and some may very well want to skip the process which is not wise as the less it’s done the more likely things down there will close up. Yes things can close up and heard of this happening. You pay a lot of money for this then later find that the skimping on dilation has closed the doors down there. There are times when I had to skip but always make it up by doing a 30 minute session to make up for a missed session.
What can make things easier, at least for me was to purchase a Liberator top and bottom ramp. A Liberator is sex furniture which I learned would give me a repeatable position each and every time I dilate while in the beginning it was hit and miss using pillows to position myself. I have my setup ready in five minutes placed directly in front of my television set so I am entertained and distracted by the tool inside of me.
Anyways there are some things to think about when preparing for post operation regiment.
Part II
When first dilating one should use a fair amount of lubrication but after things get easier experiment with using less lubrication. At first I'd advise to encompass the entire part that goes in then experiment with less of that length with lube as you will learn that the lube is not so much needed as it will do the work intended as the lube will travel up to the section that has not been lubed. The closer you get to the minimal amount of lubrication the less of a mess there will be which brings up cleaning up afterwards. I get into the shower and run water over those parts that had lube on them. You should not clean inside unless directed my your doctor.
