Hi all,
For any who have followed my journey on this forum for the past year and half, it has become increasingly obvious that I have meandered down the TG spectrum a little further right of CDing having moved from never dressing a year and a half ago to dressing in public on occasion, to informing friends, family and work, to now spending about 40 percent of my time as Isha. While I still hold that my male identity is just as strong as my female identity, I have reached a point where both require face time not just in my private life but my public/work life as well. As such, I have started the process of requesting workplace accommodation for one day a week at work.
Being military, dressing "en femme" while in uniform is problematic as there is a clear dress policy for men and women and as a genetic male I can only purchase "male" uniforms. The current TG policy for the Canadian military allows for those who are TS to change uniforms to the target gender but as I am not transitioning, this is not possible. However, each Friday appropriate civilian clothing (business casual) is authorized at the Headquarters and while there is still a dress regulation for men and women, the application is a bit more "grey" when it comes to the TG policy. As such, I have asked my new supervisor (I am moving jobs this summer) to start the process which would provide me accommodation to present as a woman on Fridays. There are still some hurdles to overcome administratively as there is nothing in the current TG policy that takes into account those in my situation who are "gender fluid" but, that is currently being addressed in policy rewrites. So it is likely to come to fruition.
I have been slowing discussing this with those whom I know and those who I will be working with to educate them so it will not be a big shock when I show up my first day dressed as a woman. Once accommodation is granted, then there will be an education session for all (specifically those I do not know) to educate them on what will occur each Friday and respond to any questions they might have. It is not a done deal but it does look promising .
Hugs
Isha